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    Sexual Assault Feeling exposed

    I feel like I completely exposed myself. Went out on Friday night and admittedly, I drank way too much. Got in to an argument with my friends boyfriend because he was upsetting her (I didn't just involve myself, my friend asked me to talk to him)...telling her to leave things in the...
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    What to do with this relationship? Coping with Sexual Assaults In Long Term Relationship.

    I've been with my partner for almost 10 years, we have 3 children together (5,7 and 8) We get on pretty well, for the majority but there are some issues. March 2022 he r*ped me, May 2022 sexual assault/attempted r*pe and July 2023 he r*ped me (this happens after drinking/c*c*ine use) and other...
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    Anxiety....again - Could be a combination of things

    I'm feeling more anxious lately but I'm not even sure what's going on? I initially thought it was because J came up in therapy, so I've asked that we don't talk about him for now, so last 2 weeks have been about other, less intense stuff but that anxious feeling is still there. Probably not...
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    Where to go with it - dig deeper or drop it?

    I don't really know where to go with therapy at the mo. Had a good session on Tues, last few sessions have been about J and she really helped me get some bits out....I still have a lot wrote down, that I'm going to send her....partly because I want to be able to delete it from my phone and...
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    Sexual Assault Am i to blame too?

    OK, so I've wrote about my ex before but I missed a part out. I don't know why....maybe because I know I was in the wrong too and then it just went on from that to thinking if I hadn't done it then he wouldn't have either? We were only together 7/8 months, if that and it started OK....the thing...
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    Childhood Has anyone else gone through life without telling anyone of CSA, at all?

    Had session this morning and it went OK. We went through procedures around me going more into CSA and what would require safeguarding referral and I'm not so worried about that side of it anymore but I did mention how I felt the fact that me not wanting anyone else to know about any of it makes...
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    Anyone had an experience with 100% online therapy?

    Not necessarily online but I have my sessions via phone and it works OK....have a few issues but those aren't to do with her. I think it works better for me, than face to face.
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    Childhood Bits...mainly about brothers

    She said she is going to block him. They met at a family party in March. I'm going to have to go, don't think there is a way out of it now...as my Little ones think I'm going now too 🙄 I don't know what usually helps....probably just being by myself with my music up loud but I can't do that at...
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    Childhood Bits...mainly about brothers

    So this is what has come up recently but I don't know how much of this I can bring up with therapist, for a few reasons. My brothers were older than me but one was only 1 year older and the other was 6 years older....Kinda feel like it might not be taken as seriously, because of ages and...
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    Childhood Wanting to remember

    Just to add to this and why this has come up. Christmas time is here, obviously and my twin brother (no abuse or anything there) we were do close at one point but he's really distanced himself. Not just from me but the whole family! Last time I saw him was last Nov at pur aunts funeral. Before...
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    Childhood Wanting to remember

    So, I don't know if this sounds strange. I was sexually abused when I was younger. I remember who they were but I don't remember the ages that it started at stopped. I don't remember much, to be honest. I have a couple of memories there, so obviously know it happened but I'd like to be able to...
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    Difficulties in relationship - Spousal Rape

    I'm having some issues in my current relationship. we've been together for 9 and half years, we have 3 children together. When we first got together, things were good. It all moved quickly, we moved in together, and I was pregnant 6 months into the relationship, but as I said, we were good. I...
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    Sexual Assault Triggered - Addressing the aftermath of trauma in close relationships. Best friend, boyfriend, therapist.

    So my best friend and I have a similar history with men, in that we have both been r*ped and were good at being there for each other. The other day, she was saying she wanted to be more open with her therapist... so she wrote a lot of things about what happened with him......and sent it to me...
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    Therapy is hard!

    I can go through the week and get some bits wrote down and add to it, when needed for therapy sessions but (sometimes) when it comes to it, I can never send it It just seems like the hardest thing in the world! It's honestly so frustrating because I know I probably should be going into this...
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    Pushing therapist away? Maybe?

    Although didn't go into what I'd originally wrote, We still went into some stuff....so I don't feel like it was a wasted session or anything. I just wish I could be more open about what I need to be speaking about, the things that pop up sometimes and the things that snowball and keep...
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    Sexual Assault Strange to feel ok

    I have this strange thing....and I don't know if it is a trauma response or what but it's like, I can have a few days where i feel "ok" but feeling ok feels strange to me....like I'm not supposed to feel ok and I need to do something to make me feel rubbish....this time, it has just made me fix...
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    Having a bit of a dip

    Could be a number of reasons, I'm not even sure what's going on with me. Do you ever feel this way? Like, you're just sad/tearful and there may be a few contributing factors and I don't know which is bothering me more. Does this sound strange? I don't know
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    Sexual Assault Body memories? Feeling sore/used down below.

    I didn't really want to go into details but I think I have to to get more understanding of what, if anything....but please know, this is super hard to post because its just so personal. So a long time ago now, for a while. I was getting this feeling....it doesn't usually last for long and it...
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    Questions from therapist - What to work on & how would I know things were better?

    My therapist asked me to think of a couple of things this week and I'm not sure why but it took a while for me to come up with answers. 1. What I'd like to work on/ how I'd like things to be different. So for this. I'd say a big thing that I think I need to work on is how I see myself/how I...
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    Feelings into words

    Feel a bit rubbish after the session this morning. It's always been so hard for me to put feelings into words and tell therapist how I'm really feeling and that's how its been today. Why is it so difficult to put into words and how do i get passed that. She said she is going to send a feelings...
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    Other Cervical screening

    So, I'm 38 and I've never had a cervical screening....I've had 3 children, so that probably seems silly....doesn't it? Like, I had all those people around me during labour and I can't face a 121 with a nurse 🤦‍♀️ Anyway, I've booked a cervical screening for the Tues 5th Sept at 11.30 because on...
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    Sexual Assault Sexual coercion?

    I told my therapist about this and was referred to child services, as our children were in house at the time. They were downstairs, they saw/heard nothing. Have an assessment with child services tomorrow afternoon
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    Sexual Assault Childrens services

    I told my therapist about a recent sexual assault by my other half. She referred me and child services have been in touch this morning. They want to come to the house to speak to me and speak to the children. Has anyone had a EHA.assessment before? What will they ask my little ones?TIA
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    Sexual Assault Sexual coercion?

    He came home, after a drink about 3am....and was trying it on but I didn't want to and I honestly lost count of the amount of times I said no, stop....and he did stop when I told him too but also kept trying it on too. Then this morning, he asked if we were going to have sex before the little...
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    Anxious day

    Super anxious this morning, couldnt pinpoint at the time..I think some of it probably was from therapy yesterday but I also realised myself that it was because I had to go out on my own, on the bus and to a place I wasn't very aware of to take care of 3 dogs (I'm a dog walker/dog groomer). I...
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