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anthony
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Before jumping the gun and allowing your brain to race off in a negative direction Redness, please read this entire thread and its answers, because not ALL abused become abusers, that is incorrect. A portion of them do, and its not because they want to, its because they don't understand how to deal with the pain another way, so they revert to the closest feelings they can come to understanding their own pain, by continuing the abuse cycle. Its behavioural, not a fact that you will be an abuser.
The majority find the healthier, therapeutic way to get the abuse out of them... some just don't make it that far, then a very very small proportion enjoy abusing others, regardless of their own abuse.
If you asked a person who's been abused for a significant period during childhood, once in adulthood, why they abused another, it will usually all come back to them trying to feel powerful over someone, just like they had their power stripped away from them when being abused. Power is another word for control, which all comes back to feeling worthy within yourself.
The majority find the healthier, therapeutic way to get the abuse out of them... some just don't make it that far, then a very very small proportion enjoy abusing others, regardless of their own abuse.
If you asked a person who's been abused for a significant period during childhood, once in adulthood, why they abused another, it will usually all come back to them trying to feel powerful over someone, just like they had their power stripped away from them when being abused. Power is another word for control, which all comes back to feeling worthy within yourself.
