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A License To Hurt!

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I guess it was about 6 months ago that something dawned on me. Like most things, it was right in front of my face to see all along. I guess I just never bothered to look at it. Since I have made this discovery, I have asked a handful of people if there experiences were just like mine. And almost unanimously, the answers were yes, most definitely. Now, when I am out, running around, working and just engaging in life, I have no problem with anybody I run into. And even more surprising, they have no problem with me. I am a delivery driver so I see many people during my work day. The customers all seem to like me ok. The people I work with all seem to think that I am ok. The barbers, grocery store clerks, gas station attendants, the pharmacists and techs at Walgreen's where I get my meds, the fish bait store, the local restaurants, you name it, all treat me with kindness and I give the same to them.
Those that abused me and used me were all so-called family members or DNA matches as I call them. They were the only ones. I say were because I have eliminated them from my life for good. The only explanation I can come up with for this phenomenon is I guess they think that they have a license to hurt us just because they are our so-called family. For me, the ones that I figured would be the last ones to do me dirty were the first and only ones. Well, I decided to revoke their license to hurt me, confiscate the license, and burn it forever. I gave 1000% of the love I had to give to these people and all they did was spit in my face. I am better than that and I deserve to be treated like the kind human being that I am.
My new definition of family has nothing to do with DNA. The person who is kind enough to hold a door open for me is a family member. The honest mechanic at the auto repair shop is family. A neighbor who looks out for me is family. The clerk at the grocery store who is pleasant and talks to me nicely is family. For me, trying to hold onto DNA members who could care less whether I lived or died is a stupid and foolish venture. The energy I expel trying to hold onto these people ( and I use the word people very lightly), is far better used on truly kind people. I know that I am far better off without these so-called family members anywhere near my life. That's just the way I roll and it works for me. Thank you for taking the time to read this thresd.
 
This post is so cool! Like you, I was torn apart by the people who were supposed to love me. I never learned how to function in a relationship, so I avoided people as best I could. But one day I let someone in, just a little bit, and then someone else, and I discovered that, for the most part, people are beautiful! Every one of us is damaged in some way, yet we still love, we still feel compassion, we still help others whenever we can.

I found my family here. Welcome to the family!
 
I too am discovering the same kinds of things you have been experiencing in your life. You said it so well so I am going to borrow this concept from you. I have found so many wonderful and kind friendships in strangers. It has really been a life changer for me.
 
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