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[Neverthesame]

Please, stop feeling ashamed, because you're "not even combat vets".

That wasn't quite what I meant by that post.
Though I can absolutely see how it could be interpreted that way. The comparison I was making, was that I share the symptoms of Hyperarousal and exaggerated startle response even though I wasn't in a traumatic incident that involved sudden loud noises, such as gunfire and explosions.

While you are quite correct in that I hold a fair bit of shame regarding this disorder, this is not the reason why.

Sorry for the confusion @TreeHugger. I should have been clearer about the context of what I wrote.

 

[Never_falter2]

@TreeHugger: I did not read most of @PartTimeWarriorLover's posts but I think you might be a bit harsh. There is nothing wrong with idealizing your man. Many a man loves that. There is also nothing wrong with making a bit fun of your man as long as BOTH enjoy it. Maybe her sufferer enjoyed it, maybe he laughed when he realized it was a pleasant surprise.

BTW mine sometimes loves surprises. Depending how he is feeling.

 

[Never_falter2]

@Sweetpea76: *lol* My oldest son is like this. He tells me "Mummy I have a surprise. I won'ttell you what it is. It's a picture but I won't tell you".

 

[dulcia]

Sufferer here. - Okay, first off, @PartTimeWarriorLover: It does not matter wh...

Woah.

 

[Sighs]

I don't think anyone on this particular thread made any reference to combat PTSD being "worse" or "more deserving" than any other kind of PTSD.

I think @PartTimeWarriorLover was commenting on her particular vet and thinking his dislike of surprises might be caused by a "startle" response to contact (in the military sense of contact with the enemy). Some sufferers pointed out to her that they too dislike surprises and their PTSD is not combat related. I didn't read shame into their comments at all.

I know a lot of civilian sufferers feel people understand combat PTSD better than PTSD caused by other trauma. I've had people tell me that my vet chose to be a soldier so he "can't complain as he must have known he'd get PTSD". So it's not necessarily the case that people are more sympathetic or understanding.

@tree hugger - I'm sorry you feel this way but I think your reaction to this particular thread is more about how you are feeling than what people said here. Hugs if you accept them.

 

[Sweetpea76]

Well said @Sighs.

I think a lot of supporters tend to focus on their partner's form of PTSD in the beginning... just because that is what they are dealing with.

Nobody is saying any form of PTSD is more valid than another.

People learn by asking questions.

 

[joeylittle]

Although this is tailored to the Supporter Relationships forum, it's worth noting here - and sufferers, if you've never read it, please do so now:

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[MTH]

What about 200 miles?