Abusing My Dog

[Ghostybear73]

@Ed Norton, your statements are incorrect. There are a lot of males on this site that we have given the same advice to. I don't think sex really matters when it comes to PTSD.

Note my response above to @Solara

 

[Ed Norton]

I never saw anyone else talk about animal abuse on the forum. There's no justification for it. I think 90 days in county jail would be helpful.

 

[Ghostybear73]

That's because not many (or maybe even none) would post that they abuse their dogs. I am not saying that it is justified, I am saying that they need to surrender the dog asap and get help. 90 days in jail, huh? It goes to show that some people value animals more than they value humans, which I can understand. I don't necessarily agree with it, but I do understand. There are some days I like my dog more than my child :P

In reality, I have seen no response from the original poster. I think they are just trying to start crap. I have asked that the thread be locked before we all start getting abusive towards one another.

 

[Wounded Scribe]

It's already been said, but, seriously, there's no excuse to hurt your dog. None. This sort of behavior reflects poorly on all of us with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. If your local media discovered this, and decided to air a story on this, surely, the headline would scream, "Next up at 5 O' Clock, local man with PTSD abuses dog."

You need to accept responsibility for your actions, you don't have the right to hurt any living thing because of your pain. Yes, pain, it sucks. But that's what makes us survivors. Carry this cross with dignity. Do not, hurt others.

Get a punching bag, get in therapy, get in therapy a coupe of times a week, own your behavior, and turn the animal over to a shelter.

I appreciate, you reaching out to a community of your survivor PTSD peers. I appreciate, you being honest, and I hope you can get the much needed help you need. But, please, get something like a punching bag, and whale the sh*t out of it the next time you have the compulsion to abuse anything, living.

 

[Ghostybear73]

It's wierd, I have seen lots of people come on talking about being abusive to other people and although they are told, as this poster is being told, to get help immediately, they are still supported. But your right @Ed Norton people don't usually come on talking about abusing their animals. It amazes me the amount of people who value animal rights over human rights.

For the record, I am not condoning the behavior of this poster. I think they need to surrender their dog asap!!!!! I also think they need help and I am glad they have come on to get that help. Maybe with all these responses, by reaching out here, they will surrender their dog. Thinking that way, I am so glad they came here to get help!!!!!

 

[Wounded Scribe]

I like so many wonderful folks in this community, and like you, have PTSD. I also, own a dog. And because of your honest thread here, I went and wrapped my arms around our shelter rescue dog, and hugged him. I told him, how much he means to myself, and my family and I thanked him for being my therapy dog. He knows, when I'm going to have a severe flashback before they hit me and he will come and sit down next to me, and we didn't train him to do this. He's a wonderful friend, and I am sorry you feel it necessary to harm something, that loves you without condition. Please, place the dog with a shelter, and get help with this. What I love about owning a dog: I love their greetings. I love, they get so excited to see us. I love, when they drink from a bowl of water, and just leave water all over the place. I love when they want to play. I love giving them love and having it given back to me. I love, when I feel guilty for feeling like I am losing the battle to this, my dog, still loves and believes in me.

 

[Ed Norton]

@Ghostybear73 I don't value human rights over animal rights, but I can tell you that my Jabby was my biggest supporter after my trauma. Much better than the humans.

 

[The Albatross]

I was a beaten child and a beaten wife. My first husband attempted to murder me by choking and with my brother's shot gun. I became disturbed when I hit my father back and left. I became disturbed when I hit my spouse back and left him too. I am underneath it all angry and screaming when emotionally disturbed but I had to learn how to resist destructive impulses and how to not be ruled by impulses. One could argue that after years of beatings, they deserved to be hit. But the actions were mine and it was my responsibility to curb the impulses to act out.

The responsibility for my actions are my own, irrespective of what my father and first husband did to me. I think that's what bugs me the most about this post. I dreamt about it last night and what bothered me the most is the cruelty and abuse aside from being criminal and perpetuating the cycle of abuse.... escalates.

I don't see that anyone valued an animals rights over a humans here. I don't view, either, that the responses are different regarding sex.

 

[Ghostybear73]

I don't disagree with you there. I have a dog and a child. The dog is quiet, the child wont hush. The dog knows when I'm hurting, the child...well, maybe she does but is just too young to do anything about it....lol However, my child gives me the greatest hugs and draws for me little love notes, etc.

All I'm saying is we have supported many of different type of people in this forum, good, bad and ugly. Beating a dog is not okay, neither is beating a human. But I think the support should be the same. As we tell people who are abusive to humans, get out of there and get help immediately. I have never seen anyone tell a human that they should never be in a relationship again, but I am hearing that this posted should never have an animal again. Is there a reason that it is okay to get treatment, help and get your child back, but not your dog?

 

[Ed Norton]

I don't think that an abusive person should be in a relationship, as the they are almost always recalcitrant. Also, I don't think that people who abuse their children should get them back for the same reason. Perhaps pedophiles should get treatment then teach kindergarten.

 

[Wounded Scribe]

@The Albatross there are simply not enough like buttons for your post. I'd like your post a thousand times over. And the sad part, the dog, is giving out love in the face of abuse. Imagine, this dog as a therapy dog in a 3rd world country orphanage, or a lonely elder who could care for the animal and enjoy it's companionship, or a therapy dog at a children's hospital, assuming the dog's light isn't fading. There are so many scenarios this dog could experience the love it deserves. Perhaps, you could get appropriate therapy, learn better coping and grounding skills and enjoy the love I am sure this animal desires to share with you.

We don't have the right to give ourselves a hall pass in life for destructive behavior and cause collateral damage, willingly, on innocent people, and animals. Get a punching bag, get three of them. Join a boxing gym, and let something else hit back if you want to hit something.

 

[Ghostybear73]

All I can say is WOW.......hahahahaha