Abusive Phone Call -- Advice Please

[TeddySue]

It's not bad to say no... and when those of us who, as children, were not allowed to say no, get in a situation like yours, we tend to want to make things right for everyone but ourselves. We are not obligated to make the world, or anyone happy, we are here to gain victory over the past and start anew, even if that takes getting past mistakes. You made a decision not to go; you knew what might happen and made the choice to avoid it. Don't second guess yourself; go with your gut instinct.

 

[Stir Ling]

Thanks for all this wonderful advice.

 

[ericaboo]

Stir Ling - this sounds so familiar. I spent so many years of my life trying to change the minds of people like that, and it never got me anywhere. You already gave her the information she needs to understand - if she's not willing or open, then seeing her in person just sounds like walking into a firing range to me...

But - sometimes I understand you have to make the attempt - just to see what that feels like, and know for yourself that you tried, and what the result was for you and for her..

My support to you, and Good Luck in your decision. (((hugs)))