Accepting what you cant have right now

[IamFree]

Really like someone in work so much you cant choose who you like. was sensible and did not try and make a move but also found out yesterday there seeing someone so that kind of made It final..couldent believe how much greif and misery I felt because to be honest even if they was not I know I am incapable of such a relationship right now it just is not available at this stage in my healing process and if I did right as I learned the hard way earlier this year it gets emotionally messy for me very quickly even the most basic of relationships is challenging for me right now. I am trying to see the other side of things. I need to embrace this time as being just for my self to be completely free to explore to find out who I am and what I really want which seems to fluctuate a lot as I heal more.

 

[Teasel]

I need to embrace this time as being just for my self to be completely free to explore to find out who I am and what I really want

I'm in the same place, I know a relationship would be too much for me too. I get feeling sad about it tho. :hug:

 

[IamFree]

I'm in the same place, I know a relationship would be too much for me too. I get feeling sad about it tho. :hug:

I think its wise . healing from this requires so much time and energy its difficult to give to much to others its not fair on either person. I have identified as well that for me right now it can turn in to wanting someone to rescue me or fill a hole and I know now only me can save me from trauma,,,not that I don't think others cant help but no one can do it for me or make it disappear. Also getting in to an intense relationship at this time for me can shift the focus from me doing this for me to being them focused and it all becomes about me doing this because I want them to love me .....even if this person walked up to me today and said ive broke up with this person lets get together it would just not work right now.

 

[Teasel]

Agreed on all points. Is there any part of you that's excited about finding out who you are on your own?