Addicted To Masturbation?

[Hufel]

o wonder Oedipus syndrome is a real thing

I know I would like a toyboy :D

 

[Ivuzo]

Girlfriend... you're doing very well. Lots of women have never masturbated, let alone had an orgasm.

 

[Solub]

On the other hand, doing oneself the favor works every time, with fireworks!

 

[Ibevu]

Sometimes three or four times a day while my husband is at work, and I still want sex when he gets home.

I have no idea what the average is, but I'm 33, and I'm down to a few times a month the week before my period -- and no boyfriend. At my peak was about 14, that was maybe 8 times a week, say, twice on a Monday, once Tuesday, skip Wednesday. And maybe a couple times a month, I would have crazy days where I would do it four or five times.

So it depends on what you mean by "normal." If you mean average, I don't think four times a day is average for any gender at any age. Now is it normal as in not in need of fixing? I can't answer that. It seems a little like saying is homosexuality normal? It's not normal for 98% of the population, but for the 2% that are gay? Normal.

I have been masturbating since I was around 18.

To this, I will say wow. That's rather old. I was seriously like ten when I started. I had no idea what I was doing, but I loved it.

Also, it doesn't improve my mood at all. Sometimes, an orgasm (at least the only kind I've had -- clitoral) leaves me feeling...I don't know....blah. After I make love with a boyfriend however, I usually feel spiritually elevated and happier and calmer -- and that's without an orgasm.

it was my go to, for relief.

Do you mean relief as in an actual mood elevator? Does is lift depression and other PTSD symptoms? 'Cause if I found something totally natural that did that, I'd be thrilled.

I would usually do it a few times a week.

From a few times a week to a few times a day is a huge jump. Was this a gradual thing or did it come out of nowhere?

 

[Opav]

The most orgasms I've had in one go is 35 and I lost count after hour 2.

Don't feel like you're out of the ordinary if it isn't affecting your life in an addiction sort of way.

 

[Kebeni]

How much is too much?

I am female and in my mid 40's.
I have been masturbating since I was around 18. It was like once...

If it feels good , do it

 

[Izogu]

I'm addicted to masturbation too. At least once and often twice a day, and sometimes more. I also think about it a lot.

For me it's a problem. I engage in sexual fantasy that is reminiscent of abuse I experienced as a child, during which I am always the victim. I best myself up each time I do it and feel shame and guilt after. It also keeps my self esteem low. I've talked to therapist about it but haven't been able to stop. I've also been to a sex addicts session but that wasn't for me.

It may be worth you taking a look at a sex addicts website, they have some helpful questions that should help you understand if your sexual behaviours extend into an addiction. Like everyone else I agree masturbation is healthy. But like anything in life you can also have too much of a good thing. In case it matters I am male.

 

[Kicez]

How much is too much?

I am female and in my mid 40's.
I have been masturbating since I was around 18. It was like once...

It can very much become addictive.

 

[Ujuje]

I have to say I cant see how anyone could describe a few times a day as sex addiction. Especially since you describe no affects on your life. Sex addiction would be if you were putting yourself into danger at times to have sex. If your life or relationships were suffering as a result and you were using it to avoid intimacy or life.

Whether it is healthy and good for you emotionally is another matter. I know reenacting some of my abuse doesnt feel helpful and is very confusing. I suspect this isnt about whether the amount is normal or not (I can't see anything abnormal about yours) but rather about what is really going on for you and how you feel about it. I think I was a bit addicted at one point and let me tell you it was waay more than 4 times daily.

 

[Lagu]

It completely depends on you. Is it interfering with your life at all? Is it coming before other important activities? Does it look at all like past abuse? Does it include things like pain?

There is no 'too much" unless some of the above things are checkmarked. If they are then I would advise to run it by a therapist but if not then just enjoy and stop worrying!

 

[Wucec]

I strongly believe that masturbation is more addictive than illegal drugs. But hey... That's just me. Right?

But mainly... I'm really f*cking weird. :whistling:

 

[Igi]

Female childhood and recent adult sexual assaults survivor here - I do and have since childhood use masterbating as a coping mechanism (a physical way to self soothe). But I personally believe it can be addictive. It hasn't affect my relationships or work - PTSD and lifetime major depressive disorder do that all on their own. However, at times it has been my only coping mechanism and has caused distress because I use porn (some I feel ok about but other I feel shame over -usually non-consensual porn because my assaults were non-consensual) and will spend all day in bed looking for just the right thing or not being able to satisfy myself (physically to completion or emotionally is the relief doesn't last). My T says the self soothing is fine but would like me not to use smut (I mostly read as opposed to watch videos) but I can't because my mind always wanders back to my abuse (and porn doesn't require imagination or much thought for me so it's an "easy"). I don't think it's my 40s with that pre/peri mentopause going on for me. It's not the action but feelings of shame that I think may make the difference.
Sorry for rambling.