Advice On What To Do Next Please.

[Abstract]

Thanks for your good wishes and sharing your positive experience Mayday. I am sure it will continue to get better and better.

I am listing all ideas that come up here and then shall start looking at them more carefully.

 

[DMerish]

I have such deep self doubt about these things. I struggle to trust myself when it comes to my internal world. I used to have zero ability to pace myself. Frantic intensity and then sudden collapse. I hate pacing myself and feel like a constant failure for doing so.

Abstract, I just want say that when I began with that goal setting document that I didn't start off with it straight away. In the beginning, every evening for several weeks, I wrote in my journal each item I had done that for myself each day. For instance: showered, made a meal, talked to friend, etc. etc. - no matter how small. These things seemed so inconsequential (little things that most people give little thought about) and they were often not big accomplishments, but repeatedly seeing/reminding myself that I did do things for my self care was like the beginning of practicing a fitness program starting with 1 pound weights. The first goal I made for myself with using the document was to simply make my bed each morning, lol!

Drew

 

[Britt.f7]

Abstract, I hadn't been in therapy for 20 years prior to last year. I thought everything was worked through, etc. Now I wish I would have started back earlier, before I lost my job, as I wasn't handling my chronic illness and depression with much finesse.

I was recommended to a company of therapists by two different people. One was my gp and the other happened to be the hospital I ended up in when I became suicidal. The first therapist of that company, that I went to, was nice, but it didn't work out for me. I needed something, someone, different. To this day, I'm not exactly sure what it was, but I needed a change. I like my new therapist. I like that she gets me. The thing I think I'm trying to say is that it may be trial and error but that is okay because you are, you sound as if you are, in a better position to get what you need out of this therapy. Do not, please, be discouraged if you do not mesh right away. It took me a few visits, or more, before I decided her method just wasn't for me. I just felt stagnate. Part of that is finding your comfort level.

I think there are a lot of good suggestions on here that people have given you. I'm glad you are considering them all. I just wish I had more to offer.

 

[Tinyflame]

I think you've already accomplished much Abstract, as you said it is terrifying.

I really agree with the post #15, and what others said that followed.

My mom once told me something before she died along the lines of, "Funny, I've always had trouble trusting, but when I've had to it's turned out fine". I hope the same for you :hug: .