Other Agoraphobic... i just said it out loud

[Mim28]

@Friday , I would honestly say it's both.

 

[Mim28]

@Renee123, thank you very much. I am at my best when I am helping people. I've been trying to help me, but can't seem to make much traction.

 

[ladee]

@Friday I had chronic ear infections as a kid. Don't know if was taken to the Dr or not. Probably not. I know sometimes I stagger when I first start walking.
Am going to get this checked out.
Thank you for the information.

 

[Mim28]

@Friday, I believe it's psychological and due to my anxiety etc. I am on meds but they are obviously not helping or maybe I'm not helping myself. For everyday I try, I am set back a few days. Dealing with regular issues and people takes all I have and it sets me back. I'm so afraid. I've been trying to fight this for 6 months and it's only getting worse. I need to call my doctors today.

 

[Enaila]

(((Hugs))) Breathe and Baby steps @Mim28. We are often so hard on ourselves and the more we get upset with ourselves, the harder it is to take the steps needed. You have been a great supportive person to me and while I don't have any answers, I can lend my support back. ((Hugs)). Hang in there. I care about you...you can do this!

 

[Deleted member 541]

@Mim28 i wasn't doing really well at the time either. Full blown PTSD and all of the lovely gifts that it gives. I knew enough though, that if I didn't push myself I would become housebound, and there was no way that was going to happen.

I'm a stubborn bitch, and when I set my goals, I go for it no matter what. Here's hoping that you can push through your fear, and finally walk out of your home without being afraid to do so...

 

[Lisse]

I understand! I have dealt with this severely too. I used to not be able to leave the house at all and now when I am triggered I am the same. I remember driving to uni and not being able to leave my car or going straight from my car to the bathroom not being able to go to my lecture and then leaving immediately to go home. Now I do online uni, but I want to try confront this issue soon and go into campus more.

I am really sorry to hear that u are going through this. I've been staying home a lot more lately because I am stressed.
I recently spoke to my psychologist about it and she said to try force yourself out of your comfort zone slowly.
For me I committed to doing groceries and then I would extend it further the next day to going to the car wash etc.
She said it was because I was highly alert and threatened (due to some nightmares I had that triggered me). As a result I was constantly on the defence and it makes you SO TIRED physically as well as mentally. which is why you are so tired.

U can get through this - it does take time. One day at a time. Maybe give yourself small goals to start with.
Is there something stressing u currently?

 

[Jadie Rose]

I know, it really is hard to change. I only leave to walk my dog, take my dog to the park/beach and my many doc appts/DBT. It's so overwhelming I couldn't even read many of the suggestions here, just not there yet. Know doesn't help much, but at least you are there and able to inquire about it and think about it.

 

[Muttly]

Not a lot of words and no useful advice, but I am proud of you for admitting it. I believe you can and will change.

 

[Raina]

I've just admitted to the chat group that I have become severely agoraphobic. I haven't said the words o...

I have had severe agoraphobia. I developed it after development of ptsd. I have travelled the world by myself before, so suddenly not being able to have the curtains open incase people could see I'm home alone was more than a little adjustment.

However, I have come out the other side. One thing I will say is, yes, you want to come out of it, but if u allow urself to feel safe for a bit, allow urself to get to the point where ur sick of being inside. The decision has to be ur own. Not because of work, or for anyone else. If its ur decision and ur control, even the smallest victories are enough. Answering the door, going to the end of ur garden. Opening the window. The more u do it for urself the better u will feel. I also tried to make the most of being in. Doing small things to take better care of myself, trying out makeup and hairstyles, eating better, I started trying to work out at home using YouTube videos. I had some therapy over the phone.

All these things are practical, knit, learn to cook. Your mind thinks it's keeping you safe, so allow it for a time. You are doing enough. You are enough, every small victory is enough. You can get through it. Explain what you can to the people around u, but even if they don't understand, it's OK. Everything will be OK, and you will come out the other side I promise. I never thought I would, and yet this year I went on a plane abroad.

There's hope, you can do it xxxx

 

[Jane oddo]

I've just admitted to the chat group that I have become severely agoraphobic. I haven't said the words o...

You can overcome it. It just takes getting out a bit more and trying to not let the fear overtake you. You feel safe at home. I understand.