Am i the only frequent mover

[WhiteHatGirl]

Since I was 18 and now I am 45, I tend to move around frequently and find housung with other too upsetting, or unsafe. I feel like a magnet to drama people. And l like I run and run and run to new rental after new place to live. It was only once that I had my own studio apt. Aline for a year continuously and when I was married that I stayed maybe a whole year in an apt. With my husband. I found some of this with other adhd or add people in one forum but I think it is a PTSD combo that is the cause.

 

[Tornadic Thoughts]

I couch surfed, roommate hopped, and was all over the place for most of my adult life, until just a few years before I met my current hubby 15 years ago. I had finally secured my own apt. and managed to stay there for a few years.

I, too, felt like I had a magnet that drew me to the worst possible influences, environments, and energies and would often have to leave those spaces abruptly for safety reasons. Not sure of all of the whys as it relates to various diagnoses, but sure can relate to the scenario.

 

[Teasel]

Used to be a very frequent mover indeed. Quite liked moving, liked having a new start etc.

Decided about 15 20 years ago that I needed to stop running away. Can't say it's been good for me. I've been stuck in abusive relationships...

Am also rather good at attracting abusive and dramatic people.

Though I must say I'm getting to be quite good at sloughing off people I don't want in my life now.

Haven't yet learned how to cope with letting in the people I like and want in my life but hey, one step at a time.

I've never thought of it being a ptsd thing though I can totally see it is the flight of fight or flight.

 

[Upside Down Eagle]

Yeah. I´ve gotten into trouble due to my own symptoms about four times. Got into trouble due to other people about four times, as well.
I guess it evens out. But it amounts to having moved eight times in the last ten years (and I´m in the process of moving out once again). Until I get my own apartment, rather than shared places with people, I don´t think it will improve.

 

[scout86]

I have you beat @Rad , at one point I'd moved 19 times in 10 years. :) These days it seems like I stay in one place around 7 years. (Which, technically, means it's about time to think about moving.)

This hasn't been planned, it's just worked out that way. But the whole "fresh start" idea has always appealed to me. I guess maybe I'm hoping some day I'll "get it right".

 

[Friday]

I can't count.

I've moved a lot. For a lot of different reasons. I've lived or worked in maybe 1/3 of the globe so far? 2/3s to go! I'm slacking. :D Been stuck in one place because of a custody agreement for far, far, far too long. 6 years. Ugh. Only a couple to go! :sneaky:

Shrug. Maybe someday I'll find home. Maybe home is the road, sky, & sea. IDK.

 

[shimmerz]

Am i the only frequent mover

lol. Um, nope. :meh:

 

[UnKnown-Self]

I've been moving all my life. There was one house growing up that we stayed five years. I lived in a house for around 15 years while my kids were growing up. Since then I've moved 6 times and I am getting itchy. When I was a waitress, I never stayed anywhere long, I did and could always go back to places but there would be a long stretch in between. Now I work for the gov. & since I started 11 years ago, I've worked in 3 different states. I know I'm not done.
Personally I think I'm running from myself. Trying to get a different result doing the same thing, just because I'm at a different location with different people. That's what makes me a people drama magnet. I have to keep seeking, learning and changing until I figure it out.

I wish you joy on your journey :)

Alice

 

[Freida]

nope -- i've changed countries, states and streets as the mood takes me...

 

[Ronin]

I'd move more if I could.

'Home' is starting to be again an idea, not an actual (achievable / lasting) thing; all the people that were 'home' to me are either out of the picture or so far flown they could be the stars, the same difference, things I need to get by I'm good recreating from scraps (don't have it and can't make it? Don't need it.), and honestly it's been mostly health/cultural/financial walls keeping me stuck. Not the unwilingness to go, and definitely not the liking of not going.

 

[Bristol]

Also a frequent mover,cant stand being anywhere to long as its never the place i thought i would belong - still havent found that place yet!

 

[Buttercup]

I'm from the supporter side and wanted to chime in @WhiteHatGirl. I have moved A LOT. it's kind of embarrassing and also upsetting to me now that I am middle aged and don't feel like I have solid roots.

But what I wanted to say is that I have ADD and this post inspired me to look around for some ADD forums. So thanks for that! :)