Am i the only frequent mover

[Flip flop]

Quite interesting topic. I wish I could just pack up and leave at any time. There’s nothing wrong with my current situation. I just hate feeling stuck. I used to love moving in my youth. Always being able to either make a fresh start or escape drama and bad situations, crappy people, etc. One reason I haven’t moved recently is because I’m afraid of leaving the frying pan for the fire. Can’t afford that risk. I have to remind myself daily that I have it good where I am and work to convince myself to stay put.

Thanks to the OP for bringing this subject up.

 

[WhiteHatGirl]

I have you beat @Rad , at one point I'd moved 19 times in 10 years. :) These days it...

19 times in 10 years. Yeah, I bet I've done that. So sad! So Frustrating. I just want to feel safe in housing. Even when I had an Apt. for a year alone, it was in an aweful complex I hated that was for the poor and foster kids ran away and the cops would show up wandering around looking for them. It was sooooo unsettling most of the time. I even fought a bunch with the landlords!

 

[trying2movefwd]

I have moved ALOT over the course of my life! It's like I start getting close to folk and then once we get "too close" I up and move cause I would rather people not know much about me..and yet I desire deep meaningful friendships. It's like another on here said...I keep moving until I "get it right".

 

[WhiteHatGirl]

I'm from the supporter side and wanted to chime in @WhiteHatGirl. I have moved A L...

You are welcome.

 

[Ice_Fire]

I've not moved as much as I would like to have, but I'm always feeling like I want to move. I've never settled. Growing up I moved once from my parents to my grandparents, then they split up and we moved three times in two years. Stayed there for 4 years until I went to uni and then I was stuck in the uni city (where I still am) and had to move every 8/9 months or so just because of short-term student lets. I'm in my own rented place now and I've been here 18 months and I've got majorly itchy feet now!

 

[KwanYingirl]

Not only have I moved frequently since childhood, I move from room to room within homes trying to find a safe place to sleep. I call them my nocturnal migrations. So far my present situation has been calm. I am getting reiki and shamanic journeying which has dampened my fear response to the point that I am actively trying to just stay present and stop running away. Once I counted my moves and it’s up to 37 now. It’s totally PTSD based and then always the disappointment that moving doesn’t solve my problems.

 

[Beans]

We moved a ton in my upbringing. Not due to military or anything, there was just always a reason in that chaotic mess of a household. Now older, my mom was recommending me move some place else if it didnt work out here (where I am.) I realized that's her go to. Wherever you go, there you are. Moving is not always the answer. My issues are issues that need to be sit with in therapy and work through. NOt moving and hoping something will take somewhere else. Unsuprisingly, my mom is still dealing with her same issues from 30 yrs ago.

I was actually just thinking yesterday, I want to give myself a home. Someplace stable, all mine, where i can relax, where my things are, where i have control, where i am welcome and wanted, etc. I have never had that. My childhood situation was always volatile and i've carried that within me. I'm looking to give myself a home and stability now. That's my next major goal. I want it to be a place all my own, where I"ll live until i'm ready to move in with or marry my future husband. I want to stay put and get to know my neighbors and neighborhood and just create a life that is a reflection of my true self. Yea that sounds amazing. Home for the first time at 30. I deserve it.

 

[KwanYingirl]

@Beans. You are so right! Wherever I go there I am. I did finally find a small space that’s mine. Not having to deal with drama. Four years in and I am still struggling to get out and explore my neighborhood.

 

[Starfish]

I have moved geographically, husbands(relationships), business situations thru my life, it is a pattern, for sure. Now, more and more, I am feeling that home is where I am. Most of the time I am not home to myself as I am distracted by CPTSD symptoms every moment. I am slowly learning to stay with myself and not run away. Looking back, before i knew that a "real thing" was wrong with me, I usually moved when aspects of the situation got too overwhelming for me. I would "start over". It always felt better with a new "thing" until myself got into the pit again and i did not know how to change things in the situation, so I ran. I have been in the same place basically for a while now and really question myself when a change looks really good to me. Usually I find I am trying to run from home(myself) again!

 

[desiderata310]

Definitely a frequent mover. That counts both local and not so local moves. The last town I was in I moved 3 times in 4 years.. ok 4 times because I JUST moved again- this time to the other side of the country. A lot of this for me is needing to find that better place, safer environment. Trying to find that perfect distance from work, recreation, etc.
Trying to find.. home? Something. I know I'm looking for something but I don't know what. I feel like a damn U2 song most of the time. I know the place I've moved to is temporary. I don't plan to stay in this city or at this job. I haven't even started yet and I'm planning my exit.

 

[KwanYingirl]

Last week I applied for subsidized housing. Here I go again! It’s a three year waiting period for the location I want. But I’ve been on the list for a less desirable place for a long time, so if it comes available, I’ll take it so I can sell my condo and start saving my money for retirement. When I got poisoned and was so sick my mother told me she bought an insurance policy that would leave me enough to pay off my mortgage. My brother who is her power of attorney canceled it. I borrowed some money from him before I knew he had thrown me under the bus. I’m never going to pay him back because I’ve seen my mothers check book and he has written many checks to himself for thousand here a thousand there One was five thousand and he has her car. What an asshole. He is so guilty of elder abuse. She’s in a nursing home now and it is a good one. She’s lost her mind from concussive dementia. She fell hard and hit her head on her coffee table. Because her brain had shrunk die to her age, her poor brain hit the front and back of her skull. So this dementia is a result of that.

 

[MyWillow]

I moved around a lot growing up (about 8 moves by aged 12 I think) so I just attributed my moving to that. Another 15 moves in as many years. Never thought about it much. Bought our first place 8 years ago and I guess I constantly fight the urge to move by pouring all my energy into renovating and landscaping. I change jobs a lot too. Entire career direction.