Anger, Fear, Jealousy, And Guilt

[greentea21]

I just realized how much of these feelings are affecting the way I behave. While not under the influence of these feelings, I seem to be quite easy-going and relax. However this calm state is uncommon as any small event can trigger anger, fear, and jealousy. Once triggered I have very poor control over the feelings and my whole world becomes warped. Eventually when things simmer down, most of the time, I start feeling guilty. Guilty of being angry, jealous, and fearful. It's a viscious cycle that I can't seem to stop.

It's so hard to deal with this. Anyone out there feeling the same way have any insight on how to manage this?

 

[BloomInWinter]

Anyone out there feeling the same way have any insight on how to manage this?

For me, my T. began by putting me in DBT to learn basic grounding & mindfulness skills. These skills give me space to observe without reacting and compounding my problems. Also, tons and tons of talk therapy in CBT with my T.

There's also tons of good books out there, and many tips here. Keep sharing. The more you specific to a symptom you can be, the easier it is for me to identify with.

 

[Abrasky]

I'm wondering if maybe the anger fear and jelousy are an emotional flashback of something that happened in your past. I've had a few emotional flashbacks which have been resolved into full memory. It reminds me of the one with powerful emotions I am currently resolving with my psychologist. Put anger grief and crying and feeling like abandoment, hate and forced love(like stockholm syndrome) in there instead. I deal with it by letting it pass by, ignoring it and when the anger comes up punching pillows. If it's a flashback with such powerful emotions such as anger fear and jelousy, it must be hard to take. My psychologist used to ask how old I feel when I get these flashbacks. My one was 9 and 19. Maybe you could ask how old you feel.

 

[1966]

While not under the influence of these feelings, I seem to be quite easy-going and relax. However this calm state is uncommon as any small event can trigger anger, fear, and jealousy. Once triggered I have very poor control over the feelings and my whole world becomes warped

Hi GT21,
yes I for one can relate to this... I tend to be very easy going, until triggered then it seems to change my whole personality.. to the point where I'm left wondering if I'm losing grip on reality.
I'm sorry I've no answers to this.. but hope someone has..so I'm watching your thread with baited breath.
I like some of the ideas above from Maze...anymore out there??

 

[blueangel371115]

the anger monster plagues me often. I fly off the handle sometimes. it's scary. I have a hair-trigger when it comes to percieved threats. Even somebody pushing me in the store can set me off. Needless to say shopping can be difficult. i'm tired of the comments like ' you aren't the same person you used to be. You were so level-headed' . Ugh. Believe me, I wish I was the same person as before but I'm not. I wish I could think of a positive way to deal with this anger.