Childhood Anyone Need Motherly Love?

[Ronin]

How you stop doing this subconsciously though?:banghead:

Recognize the pattern consciously & tell myself to stop as many times as it gets to get there.

And affirming myself in the adult role, till it clicks to more of me. Or at least that times changed, or are in the process of changing. Not the same situations as back then and the same relating not fitting in the 'now'.

 

[LadyZane]

How you stop doing this subconsciously though?:banghead:

I know everyone says it needs to come from w...

Oh god, now i know to never watch that movie :) It would crush me. I'd feel like the little match girl.

Do you ever fantasize about what you wish a parent-figure would have said or done when you were young? Or about what you wish they were here to say to you now when you're in a difficult situation? Sometimes I catch myself doing this and I have to remind myself that if it comes from my own imagination, it's actually me talking -- and that it's knowledge and wisdom that's in there somewhere for me to use when I need self-parenting. At least in theory. In reality it doesn't always end up actually helping me feel better, it just makes me feel like I'm about to burst into tears. I just hope that's something I'm going through now so that I can work through it and get to the other side, where it'll be easier somehow.