Are Adults Behaving More Immaturely In General

[mamachick]

Seems to be much more theatrical. People know more about each other because of technology anyway, so do people just feel free to share anything? Just because you are pissed at someone does not mean that the person and the world needs to know. Do people think that its their freedom of speech. Is it because we have encouraged expression?

I see an attitude that is "all about my feelings, and I will take out any casualties along the way"

 

[Deleted member 12723]

I see an attitude that is "all about my feelings, and I will take out any casualties along the way"

A big yes on this one @brat17 the great soulless sense of my rights and entitlement, maybe it was always there, I do not know but I sure agree with you on this one.

 

[mamachick]

Seems that when sh1$ hits the fan, some think "what did I do" and others think "what did you do". Whose job is it to make another feel all warm and fuzzy? Who can we blame?

 

[anthony]

Now the attitude seems to be "too bad, the other person was wrong".

But is that dumbing down, or frustration? I don't see how attitude towards another is dumbing down.

It's funny to remember listening to my parents, and how they say the next generation is lazy, this, that, blah blah blah... but here we are, continuing on where they left off, and doing things even better than before. I listen to people in my own generation, say the same thing... shit, I've said it at times, when really I mean specific people, but said nonetheless.

Saying that... the next generation are actually doing things better again. They're learning from our mistakes, doing things smarter, faster, better... making new mistakes that weren't there to be made before.

I very much agree with @Ragdoll Circus, that nothing has really changed. Population has grown, there are new issues, there are old issues totally resolved, it all balances out. There are more mature and immature people based on population growth statistics, but I don't feel society has become less mature at all. I would personally opt, based on my experiences, that society is progressively getting more mature where it counts, and being more open with relaxation behaviours. The world is serious enough... with far more stress than ever before. Relaxation now requires more focus than ever, which includes just dumbing down and chilling out when available during such periods.

 

[Recovery4Me]

Having expedited access to knowledge, or being flooded (admittedly filtered) with news of the globe is vastly different than maturity. As well age may not be the most important correlation for consideration either-

"Maturity in psychology has little to do with age, but with the ability to react, cope and reason in an appropriate way for the situation." http://www.alleydog.com/glossary/definition.php?term=Maturity#ixzz4EjEgvqXg

Perhaps @Justmehere summed it up for me the best within her post #5:

Social media and bars are not generally the best places to find mature behavior, no matter the socioeconomic status or education of a person.

So perhaps, consider looking elsewhere. :)

 

[mamachick]

@anthony-I agree with much of your last post at least in some respects. I am sitting on the fence as to the cause of all I am seeing. Having daughters 26 and 28, I want to agree that our kids are doing much better, but I also question this. They are smarter in some respects, in others, not so much. They are very challenging. Personally, I admit my own kids have a sense of entitlement in many ways.

An article in Psychology Today Link Removed I just read and found interesting, states " We're creating a world of dummies, angry dummies who feel they have the right, the authority, and the need to not only comment on everything, but to make sure their voice is heard above the rest and to drag down the opposing views through personal attacks, loud repitition and confrontation."

I see our presidential candidates in the US and OMG it is a horrible joke, a nightmare I wish I could wake up from. Then listen to others(any age) argue this BS. This is our role model, our example.

I learn from good debates such as this. I, as many hear, actually read and process what others are saying and admit to not having a conclusion, or if I have a strong opinion, I am still open to listening to others and know that I may gain further information that might change my opinion. I think that is a sign of maturity, not being right. It is ok to not know, and we can all do that on here (at least most of the time). I think you do a great job here and as the moderator, Im sure you have had to encounter some that want to challenge your authority and when unhappy, attempt to manipulate and go a destructive route that you won't tolerate. Some folks just have to make waves, challenge, have the last word, get their way, etc. That is an emotional immaturity that I suppose I was thinking of, but when the term dumbing down was proposed, Im still exploring. Makes some sense as a good term in some respects.

 

[mamachick]

That article is not coming up . It is called "Anti-Intellectualism and the Dumbing Down of America" in Psychology Today.

Recoveryforme-Im not suggesting bars and social media as examples, just the worst example. I currently do not work but when I did, my job was a bit seperate from the rest of the organization but there were always some situations among employee's too. I hear this from others employed-can describe situations as adult bullying yet we spend tons on anti bullying in schools. Its at the gym.

Maturity in psychology has little to do with age, but with the ability to react, cope and reason in an appropriate way for the situation."

As a PTSD sufferer, I know that I do not always do this and it was worse in the past. That self awareness can lead to seeking change, which is what most of us here are trying to do. This is why I think that even when something /someone is really bothersome in their behavior, sometimes I think it is the result of something undiagnosed or treated, particularly since so many suffer addictions where I live.

 

[Pakadlangitok]

Hard to tell, indeed. On one hand, people are always smiling and polite. I must say. But we also lack reason these days more than ever. I think the internet has made us different. Not worse or better. Just different in the same way the written word made us different when it first came about. It seems that people prefer to be online, that is where they feel most real. Of course then outside that, people don't feel right. Weird indeed, but the way it is.

 

[aut555]

I enjoyed reading all the comments. It seems to be fast, fast, fast news, fast food, fast service, voila, instant gratification is the soup de jour. Instant feedback to our posts at this site. This changes the mindset of how we interact and respond to the constant stimulus , social media, parading around us.

 

[Trilby1992]

As a kid I used to tell myself that eventually school would be over and all the bullying would go away as we grow into adults. Absolutely not. The playground is now the whole world and people are as vicious as ever. Nowadays I don't make a great distinction between children and adults. I see them all as people.

 

[Gs172003]

It might be that the odd weirdo we encounter has a much bigger impact from ptsd sensory perception distor...

agree. Most parents around here even want to be friend and not parents going so far as having parties at their houses for the teens as a regular occurrence. The 40 year olds are blurring with the 20s and good lord I've seen women in their 60s dress like a teenager. They have a right to of course but what's wrong with being 60?

I know three people off the top of my head that never matured past high school. It's starting to be the norm around here and I don't get why.