Are Many Of You Flexible Liars?

[Cool Cat]

Just a random topic.
But some lies I can lie fluently. Mainly about masking my mental state, forging notes, past self-harm issues, my traumas, getting a kids ticket on the train and lying to the inspector.

Others, IMPOSSIBLE
In our canteen it is 20c for tea if you bring your own teabag and €1 if you don't. I didn't have a teabag but I usually do. He tried to charge me 20c asking "How much do you owe me, thats your own teabag?" and I actually had to say "No it's not". Even though I am very short on cash, I still couldnt pay 20c. I find it impossible to say little lies.

 

[GWhizz]

I have huge issues with trust/dishonesty. And so my values are so strong that I cannot tell a lie. I would probably go bright red if I did! I find I dismiss my T's questions with 'I'm fine' or 'I don't know' when asked something very sensitive. But she knows by how I say it that I'm just trying to make out that I'm okay. I guess this is a white lie though.

 

[illusionist]

Masking my symptoms I have no problem telling lies, I could get a degree in it.. Most other things I feel like I've got LIAR written across my forehead. I can't even give someone a false compliment to make them feel better and revert to saying something positive that I can say honestly e.g. " does my bum look big in this?"......" hmmmm wow! U've got a fantastic wasteline!...maybe try this dress with the full skirt and the belt". I'm sure it's got to do with what I see and expect in others. I detest hearing lies, even if it's not aimed at me.

 

[anonymous]

Lie is literally not in my vocabulary.

I'm very much a this way or that way kind of person. I'm straightforward with other people because it was a total mind f*ck to grow up in a household where you never knew what was the truth and what was a lie. I guess you could say that my reaction was to be truthful all the time. My little sister is much the same, although she is a bit more controlled in that she can hold back when I cannot. But, like me, if the girl has an opinion on something, you're going to hear it!

Even when I talk about my symptoms or my disorder, I use alternative words. I don't say "flashback" I say "episode". I don't say "anxiety" I say "agitated". I don't ever say "PTSD" unless its to a trusted person. I simply do not talk about these things unless its absolutely necessary.

 

[scout86]

Basically, I can't lie to save my life. But, somehow I never thought of saying I'm fine when I'm not as a lie...... Weird!

 

[RussH]

Even though I am very short on cash, I still couldnt pay 20c. I find it impossible to say little lies.

There is nothing wrong with being honest like this.

 

[RussH]

When it comes to lying; perhaps the one I lie to the most is myself.

 

[illusionist]

Aha! ....when someone asks me if I'm ok I normally translate that in my mind as they are asking if I'm physically ok....so I'm not telling a lie, as I normally am.

If they asked specifically about my mental health ( which very few know about) I'd probably answer tomorrow is another day, if I was having problems.

 

[Justmehere]

I am honest, to a fault. No editing. :/

 

[Kefira]

I tend to be reasonably honest verbally. I cover compulsive behavior (think eating half a pizza in my car parked around the block from home and throwing the box away in a communal trash can). And I have a very effective mask that's been built for survival. I'm hard to read, and I will change emotional states completely if I'm being open and someone walks into the room I deem unsafe to be open around for whatever reason. It's not even a choice. It's just like a flip that gets switched. I guess given the level of severity of both of those things I sort of factor them in as a form of lying. I'm working on more emotional transparency with the people I'm close to.

 

[darrenS]

i think it depends on the situation , if your life was in danger and the only way out was to lie , then yes i would see it as fully acceptable. However i also have a basic belief that lying is injurious to the soul, and the more lies there are , the more you lose focus on who you truly are. I also credited not being able to lie , cheat and steal with my ability to not sink further into the addiction mire when i was younger.

 

[Ronin]

I don't have issue lying and with a lot of things being lied to (depending what it is, it can be sorted) but I just prefer relationships where lies aren't necessary.
If I'm protecting someone? Getting through first, how amoral it is or not later. Muuch later.