Are You an Excessive Worrier?

[pandora]

I was just wondering if anyone else tends to be an excessive worrier?

If you do...what types of things have you used to help overcome this?

I feel like even though I have had CBT....I challenge these thoughts frequently but is there anything else anyone has learned to do?

 

[Grama-Herc]

I don't know if this will help but I can relate the way I deal with the big worries. I write them down on a piece of paper and put them in my worry box. Then I am suppose to not think about the worry anymore. As silly as it sounds, At least for me, It Works.

 

[pandora]

Thank you Herc.....that is a great idea. I have been sitting here and I just realized in 40 minutes of channel surfing....I had previously set a reminder for another chanel and it came on.....it felt like two minutes...I lose so much time...thinking. I think I have to start purging more but i really am avoiding it...UUUGGGHHHH....I am not even sure if that made sense. I think I need to forgive myself for just wanting to not move at all when my back is hurting too...I guess it just means I have more work to do. Take care Herc....thanx for the response.

 

[Deleted member 487]

Yep. I do. It's called experience. I worry when I see situation "A", and I have seen it before turn into Result "B", thus worry about it going to "B", even though it can stay at "A" or go to "C", "D", "E" or "F".

 

[BassistKara]

Yep, i'm an excessive worrier too! Just today at my counsellors session, i went on a big rant(all the while becoming more and more anxious!) about the fact i've been invited to two 21st birthday parties in the span of a week, which means i'll be hit on by some guys, and god forbid i actually like one of them, that would mean a possible relationships, and all my relationships have always turned to crap! Haha, so yes, i think that about sums it up!
Cactus jack has it right though, when you think of one situation, it almost automatically leads to another and so on...
I can't be of much help in ways to deal with it, i'm just starting to tackle it in therapy myself!

 

[pandora]

cj and bk...thank you! I am sorry you are going through this too but glad I am not alone.

 

[Grama-Herc]

Guess what! The guilt of just sitting when the back it acting up is one of my guilt issues.
For that, I finally screamed "Screw It" at the top of my lungs, went and laid on my bed, took a pill and a nap. Boy did that feel good. Cuz I'll tell you something. When you have a bad back there is a motto---When You Can't Do It, You Can't Do IT!

 

[Mick]

"When You Can't Do It, You Can't Do It"
I've spent so long doing it anyway it's only made things worse. I had to realize and except what I can and can't do. It is hard for me to not be able to do certain things but at least now I don't have to WORRY about not being able to do it.

 

[Portabella]

YES....I worry about something all the time. I always think of every angle of what bad could happen in every given situation and watch and watch and worry and worry. Hard on the stomach most times. :rolleyes:

 

[Deleted member 541]

I used to be. I always felt that if something COULD go wrong, it would. I would worry about everything and anything. I would become a mess. It would heighten my anxiety, my IBS, I would have panic attacks, ect.

I think back to just how bad I was and I am amazed that I am still in one piece. I would literally worry myself sick.

I TRY now to accept things as they are. Worrying CAN'T and WON'T change the outcome, so I try not to let things bother me. There are certain things that I do stress over, but for the most part, I try to let it go.

 

[pandora]

Thank you everyone for the comments! I guess this is all about acceptance when we have disabilities.....I just happen to have this PTSD with a back injury and a disabled child...almost seems unreal to me at times. I am definately a worry wart......more work and healing and more acceptance is what I just NEED to do. In saying that....I am really having a hard time accepting all of this at once!

 

[Nicolette]

I am really having a hard time accepting all of this at once!

Totally understandable Pandora. Hang in there. You have to give yourself a pat on the back as some lesser people could not cope with what you have to do....which proves how capable and strong you really are!