Avoiding by creating problems?

[clsnowyowl]

Same here. I get uncomfortable when I don't have a problem to work on. A problem to hide behind.

In my case, when I have done everything I can to handle or take care of the problem, and the problem just remains there (or rears it's "ugly head" several hours, days, or weeks later when I think I had gotten it taken care of), in my face, larger than life- this is when I want to run away and hide (and get the proverbial "wheelchair for my brain" as I call it for getting outsmarted by the problem or someone causing it when I really want the problem to just go away- permanently).

 

[Deleted member 44579]

Hi.. I think you're behaviour will display something to do with what happened to you without you possibly realising at the time...

Like I feel that of course it's far easier to focus other things... But sometimes you can freak out and don't know why.

I guess what im trying to say is when you're brain starts to reveal the trauma.. You are going to react in a way that sometimes you can't help.... And thats what people could focus on... Like freaking out at all men... So yeah they that's a crazy bitch. Instead of is she OK... She's upset, scared and lashing out is how at this point.. She is coping..... Does that make sense?

 

[FragileGlass]

@leehalf He might be starting the fight because there is no dysfunction going on, ge...

I'm not an alcoholic, however, alcohol is a way for me to let my defence down and be emotional or in touch with feelings I block and bury due to hypervigilance.

I can't cry or emotionally break down under normal circumstances and alcohol allows that for me. A couple of drinks and my barriers are down.

So yeah, if the moment arises, I'll find any excuse I can to have a few because while I may get emotional it feels awesome to let it out because my guard is down. Im always in much better emotional shape the next day if I hadn't.