Be strong and independent.... dont become weak by wanting others....

[Rani G2]

Just trying to apprehend here a slight emotional discolouration..

During all these I have created an ideal self that wants to be very independent, someone who is apparently selfconfident, NOT interested in following others or wanting others attention. Yes, this is not how nature created human species...

Now, aftre all the work has been done, I have realized that there are a few people who want to build up a friendship....but in ME is NO NO NO. Yes, many threads have been written here about this, its nothing new, its been talked about so many times...

I always fear that wanting/needing others is a weakness. I want to be completely independent,even if I go to a party, I dont want the need to belong to the group of people.

Unfortunately hard to ignore biology...

 

[Friday]

I always fear that wanting/needing others is a weakness.

Choose your weaknesses wisely.

Being alone is a weakness.
Being with others is a weakness.
Not being able to be alone, or to be with others, is also a weakness.

There’s no way to eliminate weakness. There’s merely compensating for it.

I want to be completely independent, even if I go to a party, I dont want the need to belong to the group of people.

Being independent means you can do it by yourself, not that you have to.

 

[blackemerald1]

there are a few people who want to build up a friendship....but in ME is NO NO NO.

Why don't you want friendships with these people? You don't have to have friendships but it's nice to have a few here and there I think.

 

[hithere]

this is the story of my life

 

[blackemerald1]

Then why worry?

If you have the choice of being in a friendship with a few people and you want to...then do. If you don't then don't?

I'm not certain what other possibilities there are @hithere.

Are you afraid of having friendships? Idk just asking.

 

[Rani G2]

Being independent means you can do it by yourself, not that you have to.

Yes!!! 100%

Then why worry?

If rationality would work...I think I wouldnt ask that question.

*Sry meant I could answer that question

 

[EveHarrington]

What are you afraid of?

It seems this decision is being made out of fear rather than anything else.

 

[Rani G2]

seems this decision is being made out of fear rather than anything else.

Yes.

 

[scout86]

When you let yourself care about something, or someone, you give them the power to REALLY hurt you. That's something to be scared of. At the same time, the benefit of the relationship can be worth the risk or the cost. (Nothing worthwhile is free.)

 

[blackemerald1]

Are you afraid of having friendships?

What are you afraid of?

the benefit of the relationship can be worth the risk or the cost.

If rationality would work

Are you suggesting @PURUSHA that your fear of friendships is irrational?

 

[Rani G2]

That's something to be scared of. At the same time, the benefit of the relationship can be worth the risk or the cost. (Nothing worthwhile is free.)

Thanks scout86