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There's a lane just around the corner from me, it's off a busy road but the lane is narrow and green and quiet and pretty nice to walk down. Discovered a few blackberry bushes, not quite ripe yet.
I've not had the nerve to walk down it till the other day... since getting to the refuge it seems like I'm scared to go anywhere there aren't a lot of people. Like, no people at all isn't as bad but if there is just one other person or group, I get scared.
So walking down this lane was nice because of it being lovely, but scary too. And on the way down a couple passed me, but the vibes I got off them were uber friendly. But as I was carrying on down the hill I saw a single male in the distance. Turned round and walked so fast back up, and I'm not fit / well so it was really hard work but I walked so fast and was so scared - out of proportion scared.
Turned out it wasn't even a man, rather an androgynous woman but anyway, it is bothering me a bit how scared I am..
A few times out walking I've seen a direction I'd like to follow but daren't. And a few times I've been particularly scared if I'm out and there's just one other person around, or a group, particularly if it's young men.
I realise this is a bit hypervigilant stuff. It seems really heightened since I left my ex.
Probably thinking about it I was rarely out without him for some years.
Any tips on dealing with the fear?
Thanks
I've not had the nerve to walk down it till the other day... since getting to the refuge it seems like I'm scared to go anywhere there aren't a lot of people. Like, no people at all isn't as bad but if there is just one other person or group, I get scared.
So walking down this lane was nice because of it being lovely, but scary too. And on the way down a couple passed me, but the vibes I got off them were uber friendly. But as I was carrying on down the hill I saw a single male in the distance. Turned round and walked so fast back up, and I'm not fit / well so it was really hard work but I walked so fast and was so scared - out of proportion scared.
Turned out it wasn't even a man, rather an androgynous woman but anyway, it is bothering me a bit how scared I am..
A few times out walking I've seen a direction I'd like to follow but daren't. And a few times I've been particularly scared if I'm out and there's just one other person around, or a group, particularly if it's young men.
I realise this is a bit hypervigilant stuff. It seems really heightened since I left my ex.
Probably thinking about it I was rarely out without him for some years.
Any tips on dealing with the fear?
Thanks
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