Betrayed By Friends And Family Member

[Marie10]

A year ago I was betrayed by a friend and family member. This caused a lot of trauma, I'm in therapy and thought everything was finished. Yesterday, I found out it's not and I need some advice or to ask if anyone else has been through this.

I spoke to an old friend who I've been avoiding since I found out she is friends with this girl (call her A) who betrayed me a year ago in a horrible way. This "old friend" told me how my ex step father is calling "A" to get information on me as of a month ago. The information my ex step father told to "A" who told my "old friend" is something only my mother could've told him. It was my mother who told me about my ex step father is still in contact with "A".

I'm tired of this betrayal and have cut off most ties to anyone involved. I am now cutting off ties to this "old friend" especially since she began to blame me, taking on a stance "A" would take.

Long and confusing story short, has anyone else been betrayed, gossiped about and etc. by a group of friends and a family member? This is really hurting me, Thank You

 

[a3a2]

I'm tired of this betrayal and have cut off most ties to anyone involved. I am now cutting off ties to this "old friend" especially since she began to blame me, taking on a stance "A" would take.

I think this is a very wise decision!!

Yes, it has happened to me. And I am glad to have done the same thing.

 

[HëllaBubz]

Hi Marie10,

I am actually in the middle of drafting a letter which will be aimed at family and friends, with the intent of cutting off my father, and possibly other family members if they push the point or try to reconcile us.
I'm used to being backstabbed by my father, lied about, lied to, etc, so this is a decision not too soon, but almost too late.

 

[cavy]

Marie10 I think you made the right decision to cut off ties with your old friend. "With friends like that who needs enemies". It is a painful thing to have to do but you have to look after yourself first and do what is right for you.

TheBubzilla, it is never too late to do this, you are being incredably brave, it is scary (I know from experience) but once done I felt like a huge weight had been lifted off my shoulders, I had actually regained some power back which is cathartic. In fact it has made me stronger in some ways and I have now got space to work on my therapy.

As for me, well I can't go into details but I have been betrayed by several members of my family. I now have as little to do with them as possible. It still makes me angry, upset & I also feel as if I am being abused all over again.:mad: Well people like that are either ignorant, nasty, selfish, vindictive, in denyal of how emotional trauma may have made them behave the way they do or just plain stupid.:banghead: Yes I feel like this when having to face certain people!! Sorry rant over.

On a more positive note, at least on here we have mutual support, respect and can empathise with each other so who needs those toxic people anyway. :hug:

 

[HëllaBubz]

but once done I felt like a huge weight had been lifted off my shoulders

The day I decided I was going to do it, I had the best night's sleep I've had in years. When I told my psych, she actually had tears in her eyes, because she was so happy for me.

 

[Jenfa]

omg I'm the hottest topic in my family. After a while, you get used to it and it becomes funny but along the way it can really be harsh. It's rather similar to someone pissing on your head, and telling you it's raining. Sometimes it's difficult to separate that completely insult to the sensibility from reality, and we might begin to believe them. If something seems wrong, it probably is. Just because Mom told Carol that I said this and then I supposedly did that and he said I did this, and guess what.. good for them. They can talk themselves exhausted, but just because they declare themselves right doesn't mean they even come close. I don't have to buy it to be a good family member.