Black Sheep Status Confirmed

[Shellbell]

You can't chose the family you were born into.

Sadly a lot of us have family that are detrimental to our healing. I am the black sheep of my family too. It hurts because the need to 'belong' is strong. And belonging to a family is what a lot of us want.

But, sometimes we just have to accept that is not meant to be for us and instead surround ourselves with friends and positive influences who do care.

And I am glad I am NOT like most of my family.

 

[maddog]

This black sheep took a long time to realise that she didn't want orneed to be part of her flock of origin anyway. And the best part of rejection of this variety is the freedom it brings to start again, and all of the new doors to new relationships that suddenly become open when you're not expending all of your time and resources fighting for acceptance in a world that doesn't deserve you.

Here's to all the black sheep, and to true families built on care and mutual respect, and not on biology.

MD

 

[Whitneys story]

)((((((((((Sol))))))))))( I hope you find relief soon. It takes time, we will suffer the loss as it is part of the natural process. You will also begin to gain respect for yourself.

From everything I have read in your journey, JMHO you have been reared in a toxic environment. Now you will choose your direction and environment. Fear stands in our way as we know only the past. Take baby steps, overide past negatives with possibilities of future.

You have a lot of friends here. Friends who know the struggles and can relate. I congratulate you for your strength. Hugs Whitney

 

[lauralclr]

My mom has NPD or HPD or BPD or some strange combo platter that seems to produce the most disgusting and vile abusive language from her mouth about her children. She does this to all of us, behind our backs and we always learn about the way we didn't live up to her expectations through each other. When confronted, she lies or tells us that it is our fault because we are 'oh so awful' when really we just didn't see her entitlement as she did. We have assigned roles in our family. I am the scapegoat.

It was nice to read your post although you say we're not alone. I totally feel alone. But I understand what it is like to have a mother with BPD (borderline personality disorder) or I should say NBPD.

Anyway, thanks...