Broken

[holdenmonty]

I know it can be a religious term but from it sounds. It sounds like the co worker is using it as basically saying your "crazy" I would ask her why she's calling you broken.

 

[Melp283]

She is a self proclaimed atheist, so I think I can safely say she's not talking religion. That's another perspective I hadn't thought of though.
The video was great, I will definitely be using that :)

I spoke to my T today about it and she believes I need to set up some firm boundaries, read up on being assertive, and do what I can within the company boundaries to let her know that this is not ok.

Easier said than done, but it needs to be done. :unsure:

 

[holdenmonty]

I'm with you there on easier said than done. That seems like how everything is for me. With her being a self proclaimed atheist from the people I have interacted with that are also self proclaimed atheists are real downers and always look at the negative and to me it seems like they only try to drag people down.

 

[Deleted member 28812]

This might be helpful:

Wow. What a great video. I will do this next time somebody says something disrespectful. I hope I CAN do it because I get so angry.

Has someone already tried this approach?

 

[Ronin]

I use that's interesting and (something completely different) quite often but just... it's not about the phrases I think, it's the attitude. If all the nonverbals of the person say 'I'm hurt by your words' and 'I'm so angry I can't see straight, this got to me' they could be saying all they want of phrases and the message would still be different.

 

[heidi]

Did anything happen with this? I think it is really a cruel

I'm with you there on easier said than done. That seems like how everything is for me. With her being a self proclaimed atheist from the people I have interacted with that are also self proclaimed atheists are real downers and always look at the negative and to me it seems like they only try to drag people down.

I am an atheist and I am definitely not a downer nor am a negative and I'm not sure about dragging people down but if I do it's not statistically anymore then anyone else. I do spend some amount of time dealing with bad emotions that come from reading/hearing statements that do not uphold the level of scrutiny that I apply to my own thinking.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

Practice saying non defensive answers that do not engage her. She is not worth it. You can always get up and walk away and ignore her from now on.