Can You Only Be With Someone With Similar Families?

[saffy]

Sorry this was supposed to be with the above post, woops :)

This is it exactly, the feeling that I am not really one thing or another.

I feel that this is because you are still standing on the sidelines of being unsure, so you yourself are not either excepting them or turning them away.

. If it is my feelings or his families feelings at stake he will always choose to please them.

Sorry hun, but he would. He will find it hard to only see them now and again if they are a close knit family.

It may have been that before they realised you are both serious they stayed distant to avoid getting close to a fling? does that make sense? Now that the relationship has moved on they want to be part of it. I think that is just normal for a close knit family.

It really upsets me that he doesn't see this.

I think he does but does not know how to handle it, would you rather he be joined to the hip and scared to do anything in case he upset you?

In contrast he will have more time for his because you are estranged from yours but this doesn't mean he doesn't want to spend time with you either. It might help to make sure you always make plans to do something together also.

I hope you can be happy and let it flow.

best wishes
Saffy :)

 

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I really appreciate everyones feedback. Its so helpful to have another perspective. I have a lot to think about and will be back for a proper reply.

qp- feeling grateful for all the compassion :hug: