Relationship Challenging...

[Dallas]

....not knowing where they accidentallly might've put your boyfriend in the VA hospital, and being able to keep cool about it.

He's been in the same bed, same room for the past seven days. They were supposed to move him to a new ward today. Called the new ward tonight, he's not there yet. Called his old ward...he's not there. Now no one is picking up the phone at any nurse's station or at the switchboard.

Ok, Dallas...it's time to practice what you preach. Let it go. He will be fine. They are taking care of him. There is nothing you can do about it now. You will find him, or he will call you when he can get to a phone. RELAX, have a beer, watch a movie, have a fun evening.

Sincerely,
Dallas.

 

[Dallas]

Found him...nurse just called...he is being admitted to the new ward...she said he will call me after he's admitted. That was nice of her to let me know.
:)

oy vay...I need to step back and take a break...the stress of him being in the hospital for the past week and me going to see him everyday is taking it's toll. I need a time out, I see my old illness is creeping back...:O_o:

Sincerely,
Dallas.

 

[amethist]

Hi Dallas

Try and relax a bit more and get your own strength back while he is being cared for in the hospital.

Going to see him every day maybe good for him, but it is as you say, "Taking its toll" on you. Is there any way you could miss a day, to take time out completely from it all. You make think "I can't do that", but yes you can if you explain to him that you need as break too.

I did that when my husband was in detox. I left him to cope on his own without relying on me to be there all the time. He hated it, but understood I also needed to do my thing for a day.

Talk to him and explain it to him, you may be pleasantly surprised.

 

[Dallas]

Yes, thanks Amethist. They moved him back to the PTSD ward for a couple days (maybe through the weekend) while they readjust his medication. They don't really allow visitors up there, so I'm going to just take a mini-vacation for the next few days.

Today I'm dropping my Boxer puppy at a four day dog show with his handler, then I have a couple appointments with clients. Tomorrow, some appointments in the morning, then getting my hair colored straightened and highlighted in the afternoon. Friday it's off to Tampa for Law School Open House, where I'm starting law school in January. Saturday working, Sunday day off!

So I think the break and time off will really do me some good.

My boyfriend is really working hard to get well and get all his medication adjusted so he can have back surgery...and we are talking about getting married! So it is an exciting time and things are going well. I think the rest break will do us both good and rejuvenate us.

Thanks Amethist!

Sincerely,
Dallas.

 

[discarded]

Oh Dallas, I know how you feel, I tend to think the worst in situations like this to. My mum always said 'what you don't know won't hurt you" but it does because we imagine all the negative possibilities and sometimes can't rationally think through what is the likely situation. We get ourselves worked up about things that may or may not be happening and generally when all is said and done the outcome is good and we wonder why we wasted so much energy and got so worked up about it. Just in a nature I guess, and the fact that PTSD stresses us whether we are a sufferer or a supporter. I am glad it is all working out and the nurse was so thoughtful.

 

[Dallas]

Yes, thanks Discarded. It makes it worse when we are tired and can't think properly. My mind really goes wonky when I'm tired and/or stressed!

Sincerely,
Dallas.

 

[Dallas]

It's not like they're going to just stick him in a closet and let him spend the night there...which is what I was actually thinking! lol! :rolleyes:

 

[amethist]

He is not alone, he is not on his own and he is being well cared for no matter what happens.

You on the other hand have had to worry about both of you. Now just worry about yourself and do what you intend to do. Think of him in a good way, not a worrying one.

 

[Dallas]

:) Thanks, Amethist!

 

[Dallas]

Update:
Night 1: where did they put him, did they stick him in a closet somewhere?
Night 2: Nurse can't find him...he's not in his room...
Night 3: No answer at nurse's station....
Night 4: Transfer from switchboard, request 5th floor...sorry, she said...phone's aren't working tonight..

What's going on up there? :shifty:

oy vay :confused: :banghead:

...but had a great week so far...had fun today...went to my law school open house tonight! Very excited about starting my new life adventure in January. Having a glass of wine and relaxing a little before having to get up EARLY for work tomorrow... :wacky:

 

[Dallas]

Night 5: Nurse's station: "Hello, may I speak to _____ _____please?" "I'm sorry, there is only one phone the patients on the ward are allowed to use (from 6-8pm) and there is a very long line with people waiting. Please call again later."

Later (7:45pm): No one is answering the main switchboard to connect me to the nurse's station on the 5th floor. Tried three times till 8 pm.

:banghead::banghead::banghead::banghead::banghead: I think I gave myself an aneurysm from the stress. :blackeye:

I give up. :dead:

I'm just going to wait for him to call me when he gets out of there...IF he gets out of there, and they haven't locked him in a closet somewhere. :O_o:

Now I see why he gets so stressed just being in the hospital!!! :wtf:

Sincerely,
Dallas