Chilli And Chilli - Having A Bad Day

[adeline]

I am so annoyed and angry I want to put my fist through a wall. As I am talking to my husband about a girlfriend coming to visit while he is away at his PTSD program. He asks if I am taking our oldest son out of school early to pick her up. Without thinking I said I might have to depending on when she fly's in. I had it written on the calendar and what not, but he started to lecture me about his education being important. I laughed because I am like no kidding. Who is the only parent he has had ME, why are you all of a sudden giving me parenting advice when you are never here and when you are, your STUCK TO FACEBOOK OR SPORTS. That didn't go over too well. He proceeded to reiterate to me for the next 10 minutes how selfish I am to take him out of school early to pick up a 'friend' when his education is more important. I am like seriously, he is on spring break that week so its null and void. Oh no some might think so but not him, he continues on about how she is just a friend and how our son needs my attention more than my friend does. And goes on and on about it. I then proceed to shoot back to him that he is right int he more sarcastic way possible. Because honestly I am an intelligent person who doesn't need to be told 20x's that his education is important considering i am the one who takes care of him the most. I am so annoyed at that point I had to get off the phone for fear I would say something I didn't mean in order to shut him up and hurt his feelings. Which in turn wouldn't have solved anything.

 

[wife of]

Gutted beyond belief this morning,really low in my own spirits,haventslept much and shaking like a leaf,Hubby was doing so well last week and Im so dissapointed that the people who are supposed to be helping have completely unravelled him.Took my son into visit yesterday and that seemed to cheer him a lot,so I was on a high all afternoon,got a call in the evening to say all was well,chatty and loving,By midnight it had all turned to shit for him,had a garbled phone call,and was told that its all my fault hes still there and i'm just controlling him............Scared hes giving up on himself....

 

[Jimmy1]

Adeline, I really think you should vent in the carers/supporters section.
This forum is for veterans who have combat related PTSD. A lot of the veterans have no idea how to help themselves let alone manage a relationship. That is why there are so many break up and divorces.

He was away all the time serving his country proudly. Yes, you probably need a medal for staying at home and raising the children , but its not about you. He has PTSD. You have posted in an area which is about having a bad day for us veterans with PTSD.

There is another forum called PTSD Forum which has a supporters section. Maybe you can vent there.

But all I see is an all out attack on your husband who probably has no idea on what he is saying. I am speaking from experience here. I used to yell and scream and lecture for the smallest reasons then carry on like nothing ever happened. The result, my wife left me.

So, if you take offence, sorry, but this site is for us. If you have questions on how to approach your husband or want some help in learning how to deal with a particular symptom of his PTSD, by all means ask away.

But its not about you.

Now I am pissed.

 

[wife of]

Sorry Jimmy I'm sure that the supporters will not mind having thier own Rant page in the supporters section,in fact i'll head over and start one now,we didn't realise this thread was VETS only as it wasnt mentioned,sorry if any of us have upset you I'm sure it was our least intention...Sue.

 

[wife of]

Adeline,I've set up a rant thread in the supporters section where ALL are welcome and ive also put a thread in the bar asking that any vets who aren't comfortable with carer input on a thread please state as such so that no one feels uncomfortable...

 

[adeline]

TY foe the clarification.

 

[track108]

Well to get back to whinning.

Havent been on in the last few days. My grandfather is back from russia where he lives with his wife, so the whole family is in town for the FESTIVITIES. AAHHHH its great, I get to pretend like I give a shit about people and fake smile all day.

I have been drinking pretty heavily since thursday. The first day was with my dad, we get together about once a week and have some beers and hang out and shoot the bull. Friday I drank in preparation for going to bed cause my aunt and her daughter are staying with us and I dont want to be awake for 48/72 hours while I have guests with me in the house. Saturday i went out at 8 at night and didnt get home till 8 in the morning sunday, thankfully everyone was still sleeping so i drank one last beer and threw the rest of my 12 pack away and crashed out for a couple hours before the family got back together for the day. Went and did the family thing and finally got home about 11pm completely exhausted but I still stayed up till 6am monday before I finally passed out in the lazy chair. Woke up a couple hours later from a nightmare drenched in sweat and havent slept since, did the family thing yesterday but mostly everyone left last night. Im supposed to go see my gramps today too but i think im just gonna go crawl into my hole for the day.

I feel like ive been run over by a truck, just drained to all hell. I dont really care about my extended family at all and just being around them is annoying. I like my grandpa, he is the one who got me to move back home but the rest of them bah. I didnt like them before iraq and I certainly dont like them now, but whatever, woe is me. Hmm I kinda sound like a dick here but thats the deal.

Didnt have a good session in therapy yesterday either cause I was to drained to talk. I think a day in bed staring at the ceiling will help get me out of this funk.

Well I saw a thread I can go say something funny on so enough crying from me.

 

[willis williams]

Track, man that sounds like a rough one I would of hi the sauce to. Hopefully you get your wind back down day. Good Luck. TEX

 

[Nate1]

Track,
I hear what you are saying about the extended family, the only one i stand to be around is my father-in-law. Most of the time we are together it is riding down the road on our motorbikes or just sitting around with the beer following like a waterfall. Hang in there, take some down time and then get back on the horse.

nate

 

[BV101]

Track one day at a time tiger. Just keep banging on minute by minute and at some point the family will go. I can be a right patronising twat here of course and say that drinking doesn't help, but I've been to places where it sometimes does. Keep bashing the keys on here if it helps. Not when you are battered though. It will just look like this...

"well te4he familey are alL s1t1iill her. f*ckers. Are thwey to even get tothere own f*ckqng hames"?

Thats no good to man nor beast is it? But keep hanging on in there.

 

[Jimmy1]

Feeling like crap today. Went to the back surgeon yesterday, he is doing the surgery to my lower two discs on 6th June. I don't know whether I can wait that long. Constant pain sucks even when I am sucking codeine all day. It sucks it out of me. Its like a never ending merry go round. Pain causes depression which makes me anxious and stressed. Its sucks the big ones.

Guess I need an attitude adjustment and a can of harden the f*ck up. Anyone got any??

If it was not for my wife to be, I really do not know where I would be. Can't wait till we are living together.

 

[BV101]

This is why you are angry about my comments re: the Anzac biscuits isn't it?
here is a tip for you in your current state...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mh6pZQX22CQ

I tell you what though... You think you have it bad now. Imagine me in a trench next to you. f*ck me, that would be bad... Jimmy, Jimmy, Jimmy... what time is it? Jimmy, Jimmy, Jimmy... can I have an Anzac biscuit? Jimmy, Jimmy, Jimmy... I know you can hear me you f*cking aussie twat, I need to go to the toilet... See your back doesn't feel that painful now eh?