Christmas

[Muttly]

I stopped going to my family christmas get togethers because of all the cons, so that's influencing my take on your situation. I see all the cons and the fact that you won't have your own mode of transportation and it just looks like a bad situation. Again, that's looking through my own experiences.

As far as why you can't, and your brothers can, there's probably a lot of reasons and weakness is probably not one of them. It sounds like your brothers use drinking, isolation and other behaviors to cope. Maybe you can't, because you are more honest with yourself about how you feel. Maybe you can't, because you are healthier (even though it feels worse) and react appropriately to a messed up situation.

 

[futurefocussed]

As far as why you can't, and your brothers can, there's probably a lot of reasons and weakness is probably not one of them. It sounds like your brothers use drinking, isolation and other behaviors to cope. Maybe you can't, because you are more honest with yourself about how you feel. Maybe you can't, because you are healthier (even though it feels worse) and react appropriately to a messed up situation.

I think you're right. I messaged my dad to say that I won't be there Christmas day, it means boxing day will be more difficult, but at least I'll be able to handle it.

 

[leelee]

I hope you have a Super Christmas day. Remember to try and stay in the moment and enjoy the people and life going on around you. Start your own new traditions (it helps).