Client Challenging My Boundaries

[KwanYingirl]

Some of this May be triggering. It has to do with a client exposing himself and I am very triggered and confused and afraid of him. Can some of you join me in aPC?
Thanks, Judy

 

[JEKBreatheandBelieve]

I am not sure if I can handle triggering, but I would like to support you because I know what it is like to need support. I can't spend much time online right now (got to feed those kids of mine!), but I will check in later if you still need to chat. Probably in about 2-3 hours. Until then I hope you will know that I am thinking of you as a way for supporting you.

 

[risingsun]

I sent you a message if you want to PC with me KwanYIn Girl. Warmest, Rising.

 

[desiderata310]

Sent you a message as well.

 

[Springer80]

At first I was going to say stop taking his bookings right away. If he causes a problem report him to the police immediately, even if at this stage they don't have anything to prosecute. You have to stamp on this quickly.

Then I thought, is it that he's unabashed about his body and his inadvertently not get dressed quickly enough?

If there is any whiff that he is accidently doing it on purpose or if he blatantly is doing it on purpose I'd go down the banning route and reporting right away.

However whatever the circumstances are you aren't comfortable. It's your business you are the proprietor and he have a right to deny service.

 

[KwanYingirl]

Ok thanks. I am the owner I get to say who I work on. He is definitely crossing the boundaries and I can't tolerate it. I did think to call the police-thanks for the info I'm going to do this over the phone so he'll never need to come in again.

 

[Springer80]

I can't recall exactly but are your business premises separate to your home?

 

[KwanYingirl]

Yes I live in the next town from where my office is. I'm still being stalked by an abusive ex so I am just paralyzed. Part of me wants to ask my son to come and take care of this guy but that would be hurting my son.

 

[Springer80]

I take it your son is a grown man? I would definitely ask him and see what he feels. He might be glad to help. Also are there other practitioners operating out of the same building? Could you tell them this guy is a problem.

 

[KwanYingirl]

My son is 32 and tall and strong. I did try to call him!!!! But his voicemail hasn't been set up. It's probably phoney. My friend John is coming Friday if I can't reach this guy sooner.
I am so relieved I finally got the courage to make the call. Thank you all. I guess from my posts that you can tell conflict is my most distressing state to be in. My therapist offered to let me make the call from his office, but I managed. The hard part is over.

 

[KwanYingirl]

@Springer80 I've told everybody in my office building and I've told a few clients that I'm close with. One of them offered up her husband to make the call for me. I wish I could but it has to be confidential.

 

[Springer80]

I think you've handled this amazingly well. Asking your friend John, telling your therapist and co-colleagues. The best way to deal with these people that try and capitalise on fear is to involve people and e public about it. Sounds like you've nipped it in the bud.

You say you've made the call. Was that to the guy in question? How did it go? Do you feel confident that he's put in his place?