Coming out after being stalked

[shimmerz]

Is there a real possibility of someone actually still trying to track you?

Absolutely there is.

Whether it has a high probability of happening? Not if it was just my ex that was involved. It was his sadistic psychopathic brother's involvement that was a game changer. Being a lawyer and all he sealed the deal in my not being able to get help from any law enforcement agency.

The problem is, I know I can't survive a similar attack again. So I guess I am saying that I can't take the chance that this will happen again until I recover from all of this.

who paid people to stalk and track me and my family

Yes, this is a real problem, trauma wise. Everyone becomes the stalker, even though everyone isn't. A real mind f*ck to be sure. My sympathies.

 

[Ronin]

Being a lawyer and all he sealed the deal in my not being able to get help from any law enforcement agency.

How so? // ANY?
As in, you believe him being a lawyer was the issue, I would think about this, if he did it, how, and find where he made mistakes.

Just as I would question own assumption about not being able to get help from any agency: surely there are some that would be helpful? Or individual people within, if not the agency itself.

Said in care, because I do not believe anyone dealing with stalking needs to fuel their own conspiracy everywhere brain, it does not help with either moving through the stalking, or for preparedness and realistic expectations toward the future.

 

[shimmerz]

or for preparedness and realistic expectations toward the future.

Unfortunately, we don't have a crystal ball to see what is going to happen in the future. none of us. So we generally use past experiences which create our present day thoughts and opinions to guess at our future. Measured risk.

For myself, I can't speak for anyone else, after such a drawn out (3 years) stalking event that was highly emotional, unbelievable amounts of betrayal, sadistic and illegal stuff almost everywhere I turned, invasions of my then house, invasion of a woman's shelter that led to my being turfed out, death threats to my children and my friends..... shall I go on?

Yes, I am sure the story I have of what happened is true. I also don't know if it will happen again. My logic is, if I don't know that now will I ever know it? The answer is no.

So if I don't know it now, which means I won't know it ever - am I willing to live the rest of my life like this?

No. So I am taking steps to get my life back into gear again. It will take a while to get into full gear, but for now the decision to not make this my 'end day' attitude works for me.

 

[desiderata310]

@shimmerz
I am way behind catching up on my reading but if you want to move to CA I know of an office job you might enjoy and someone close by who would be willing to have a roommate at least temporarily.

 

[shimmerz]

but if you want to move to CA

Most certainly I would love to. I loved it in CA.

who would be willing to have a roommate at least temporarily

See, but this is what gets me all the time. Do they have an aversion to people who go catatonic in their space because unfortunately, this very large issue is what is keeping me homeless.

I thank you so much for your thoughtfulness Desi. I recognize you have your own large stuff going on so I just want to say I appreciate your giving me your thoughts.

Just a question here.... I know the hell that SO went through to get work in CA. Not sure that the US of A would be happy bringing in an office job worker from another country.

I am going to say though, the thought of never having to think about these asshole abusers again would be a life changer.