Communication is Hard for Me

[littlemouse]

@Moonshadow:
My marriage is in a similar state of discomfort. I have a bit of an opposite problem as you, when I need to communicate how I feel I go full-force and I communicate too much at once, and my husband gets bombarded with all of this information and background to information and background of the background to information... I can't summarize at all and it makes him impatient and loose track of my main focus.

I find that writing things out in an email, as suggested above, where you can have your feelings in front of you with the ability to edit and craft your wording just so, is a good way to communicate when it's not productive face to face. I did it with my mother as well when I was in high school. If she and I were just too angry at each other to try and be patient enough to listen to the other without blocking out certain information, I would just write her an email where she was forced to sit and read it without interrupting or correcting. It works with my husband too.

There are plenty of people on this site who can relate to this particular issue, you are not alone. :)

~O8>*

 

[cragger65]

Wow, this is so me. I stuff my feelings with most people now, because I've learned that for a lot of my friends and family, it just sounds incoherant. I've started writing things out and reading them to my therapist. It forces me to stay true to that inner voice and not dodge things with her. I've only done this once so far, and I managed to choke out 2 paragraphs through the (inexplicable) tears.

Maybe reading the suggested letter to someone else first would help, I don't know. Best of luck with whatever you try.

Dave