Relationship Communication Issues.

[MoeX]

Being in a supporter role is so confusing. I always used to think if we didnt talk every day somthing was wrong. Some people dont need that constant interaction.

I do. I take it upon myself to reach out to him. If I think Im bugging him I ask. He will either say no or I get no answer which means yes. LOL

You will learn eachothers patterns. It takes time.

 

[sthrngirl]

Yeah I thought we had a pattern! lol

 

[Gingerly]

sthrngirl, I would call him, but expect the unexpected

 

[sthrngirl]

I contacted him last night. He has 4 tests today that deal with work.. I totally forgot about them. He stresses about stuff like this so now I know what has been up with him..

 

[waitingforhim]

My guy does the same. It wouldn't bother me so much if he had been that way always, but it's just the last few months, since he has returned from deployment. I chalk it up to just being under a lot of pressure/stress at work. When we are together he gives his total, undivided attention to me, but when we're not, it's just brief, obligatory responses. It's hard to not to take it personally, but I keep reminding myself he has to compartmentalize things to keep from feeling overwhelmed. Good luck.