Communication

[Bookoffee]

Your wife wants to be intellectually challenged and you want to not be corrected when you say things. Both are important things to discuss. Good luck!

Thank you for bringing this to my attention. We did have a successful talk about both.

Has she had a change in her life where she has lost a prior source of this. Is there something she can do to add a source into her life eg joining a book club.

Yes a lot has happened in the past year. She lost her job due to medical issues and went from working on busy hospital floors to a desk job with five other woman. She has less people to talk with and her best friend really let her down and she lost all trust in him. She is going through a rough time as well right now. She does start a second job at the local medical university grading students on their work ethics. I am hoping this will bust her up and help fill the gap that I have not been able to fill.

 

[Bookoffee]

I finished reading and taking notes from the Help Guide Link. I found it to be helpful and we have had a lot of successful communication since. I was able to voice my concerns and even some fears. We both are feeling better.

I found this piece from the link to be most helpful:

"Emotional awareness provides you the tools needed for understanding both yourself and other people, and the real messages they are communicating to you. Although knowing your own feelings may seem simple, many people ignore or try to sedate strong emotions like anger, sadness, and fear. But your ability to communicate depends on being connected to these feelings. If you’re afraid of strong emotions or if you insist on communicating only on a rational level, it will impair your ability to fully understand others, creatively problem solve, resolve conflicts, or build an affectionate connection with someone."

[DLMURL]http://www.helpguide.org/mental/effective_communication_skills.htm[/DLMURL]