Constant Anger

[Punky143]

I guess I'm just angry. I am always angry at myself first. Then I go on to blame everyone else but I feel like there valid points. I know anger doesn't get anyone anywhere but for right now it feels better then my heart breaking.

 

[mamachick]

They say depression is anger turned inward, and I think that is true. So when I see someone who is angry a lot, I see it as their defense (coping) mechanism and it serves a purpose. Striking out or blaming others can prevent one from becoming so depressed and maybe even suicidal. I learned that about myself since having PTSD. I just think that it needs addressed for anyone who suffers this, and I suffer this too, but mostly at myself.

Then there are times that I am angry at someone close to me, which often comes from frustration. I think we get angry for different reasons (hurt, insecurity, jealousy, frustration, etc) but many times have a theme to that anger. My theme seems to be frustration. I seem to have people in my life that have not communicated well or don't do what they say they are going to do, so its usually rooted in frustration. When I listen to their point, it can de-escalate it, but if that other person just repeatedly makes excuses....gonna get same result.

 

[Punky143]

It's frustration. It's disassociation. It's Borderline. It's PTSD. It's the Anxiety. It's the Depression. And all the symptoms stemming from them when so much has occurred and the people we once were, seem so foreign but we try and carry on. But, the second we feel taken advantage of or treated lower, we flip. And we don't bounce right back either. And, we ruminate on the same stuff every day despite best efforts. It's crappy. But your correct, its depressions pal cause a few days ago I was about rock bottom.

 

[mamachick]

As long as the anger does not become violence, there are times that I think it beats hitting rock bottom. Don't get me wrong, not ok to abuse others in any way, but to feel the anger and verbalize it is much better than hitting that dangerous bottom. Unfortunately, I have said things that I didn't mean when in that state, and its like you said its like we flip. I am usually tolerant to a fault, beat my self up, but when that switch flips, the brain filter does not work. I am working on it and have been doing much better with filtering my words when angry.

 

[Ronin]

I don't think any emotion is in itself a problem. Anger isn't a problem. Anger isn't a problematic emotion.

Ditto to violence - really depends how one defines it & the reasons & the contexts, too.

They're not connected, or leading to one another.

I'd look at healthy expressions for both, in every case? (Anger as an emotion, and violence as a type of behaviors. Both can be channeled in healthier and non-toxic ways, and definitely ways that are not harmful to anyone.)

 

[lostforgottensoul]

I have a lot of anger. My therapist says that sometimes anger is good motivation to change. Like the cult still controling me was making me very pissed off. So that was motivation to changing it.

Most of my anger, though, is aimed wrong. It should be aimed at my abusers but its aimed at myself. Thats not good so trying very hard to turn the aim.

I bookmarked a WONDERFUL thread Anthony wrote about overcoming anger:

Dealing With Anger

 

[Gadgie]

I get like that as well, it's either anger or frustration, I'm not sure which?

All I know is, it's hard to control, and can really tire me out. Sometimes I can control it and have a normal day, but all the time?