Constantly In Emotional Flashback

[Hopp]

I am tired. I´ve been more or less in emotional Flashbacks for several weeks. I Think it is due to the situation with my husband. We have started therapy together and it has made it worse. He is very quite and I don´t know what he is thinking. This is like my father did to me during childhood, silent treatment. I don´t know what to do! Worse is that I can see that our Children have a tough time too...

 

[arfie]

My husband calls it, "reflective thinking." I will spare you my list of names for it...

I work to accept it as a simple fact that I need a separate therapy program and my husband has the right to move at his own pace. Live and let live? It seems to be working, too. Our relationship is much more relaxed.

Gentle hugs, Hopp. Hope you find what it is for you. Yup, our kids most definitely feel our struggles.

 

[mamachick]

I have been seperated for a long time. We have had contact because of kids and real estate. Recently things got worse and we have no contact. His silence is unsettling and triggering. I feel a lot like you do about the silent treatment. I imagine the worst. My thinking becomes circular and is self destructive. I am working on reminding myself that I can survive whatever it is that he dishes out. And yes, it has been very damaging to our kids. My upset state may be the most damaging. Living with the unknown seems to be horrible for me, yet life is all about the unknown. It is a chronic anxiety.

 

[Tinyflame]

I think (coming from the opposite situation of screaming and confrontation), it is (yes) very difficult brat to imagine hope. It is also difficult sometimes to discriminate an emotional flashback, from stress of it's own, or situations that foster despair (for myself).

Pete Walker's thread on this forum has 13 points to follow to stop emotional flashbacks, or contain them.

Hugs and best wishes Hopp and all. :hug:

 

[macca]

I have something similar going on. My husband and I are in therapy too, and I just started my own. He goes quiet as well, and I get triggered from being ignored. I am still getting to grips with emotional flashbacks, and I'm thinking I have definitely had these in our arguments, and he used to get angry at me, which made it way worse, as it's a trigger too. He is starting to realise what is happening in therapy, and that has made him take it easier on me. What really helped is having him understand better what might be happening for me - I asked him to read the "Understanding PTSD" article from the articles section of this website, that has helped us. I hope that things get better for you and your family.

 

[Hopp]

Thankyou so much for your help! It actually helps just reading about other people and realizing that I´m not alone. I also got some hope from you macca, maybe this therapy will help my husband to understand what really is going on. I really hope so!:tup: When it comes to reading, my husband seems to think it is to difficult with English and there are very pore articles on our first language. :mad:

I still struggle to cope with all the feelings. I really don´t know what is happening now and what happened before...:oops:

 

[Hopp]

I have been thinking... I think a lot of my emotions comes from the present situation. It is very difficult between me and my husband so I´m really stressed out.:banghead::cry: It is also very triggering due to trauma in my childhood. It makes it worse. But still: this present situation is quite bad. :depressed::sorry:

 

[Hopp]

Now it´s been better for about 24 h.:) I haven´t felt so bad and it might be beacause I haven´t been alone. It is very triggering for me to be alone.:barefoot: I feel abandoned (Spelling?). So then it might have been mostly Flashbacks anyway...:confused: Oh, I´m so mixed up! I really don´t know!:arghh;