Coping with ptsd with perfectionism?

[IamFree]

Indeed perfectionism is a compensatory function.
It also puts a lot of unhelpful pressure o...

yes of course we need to be careful who were with and when were being vulnerable as we must not make the mistake that everybody gives a shit about what you have been through, but also why were doing it . Yes also the problem with wanting to be better than is that you get a reputation for being an arrogant asshole which is the last thing you need with PTSD.

 

[NatBird]

IME people don't like you unless you're perfect. If you make a mistake, even a small one, they ki...

Couldn't agree more. That's exactly what it was for me until its cover got blown.

Up until recent PTSD flare perfectionism was the engine, shame was the fuel.

I find criticism tough mainly because I feel so wrong/shame anyway. I'm able to embrace it when it is constructive/comes with a signpost.

Yes - it was a way of dealing with the shame that is a core part of my CPTSD experience.

 

[NatBird]

I was also a perfectionist, until i entered therapy and my trauma kicked my ass and knocked m...

@lostforgottensoul yep! trauma broke me, signficantly reduced my abilities and capacity.
I think I'm still upset/grieving the loss of these things and not quite able to put all the energy that I once had into building a good enough version.
Then there are days when I notice that I'm doing things that I wouldn't have previously dreamt of doing if I didn't think I was perfect.
Anyway, thanks for sharing that.

 

[IamFree]

The other thing I have realised about perfectionism is that what we do to are self we do unto others . Sometimes I am expecting these immpossibly high standards in other people. The quality of my relationships can be poor because i am so quick to change my mind about and reject people over some bad behaviour. I believe that If i am lookinmg for people who are always going to behave how i want i am destined to be very lonely