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Creepy old ladies

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People of all ages get too touchy and familiar. Not all of us old gals are in your old lady's circle. I think these types of people have no sense of personal space.

Come to think of it, Dad also mentioned that back in his day, "c'mere, lemme fix your hair" meant you were about to get beat up for being a hippie, greaser, or someone who otherwise didn't assimilate to social standards of appearance.

@Still Standing is correct, the lady had no sense of boundary or decorum... but this isn't an old-lady thing. Even in my age bracket, we've got some serious grabbyclaws. I think you made the right call, @Notamorningperson , because fighting bad manners only enables it.
 
I am an old lady and respect boundaries and only hug sometimes with someone I ususally am used to hugging upon greetings so I think it is this particular person. I would run away very fast if I was in your position because I hate things like that. I am sorry that you have this problem with her.
 
Maybe she trying to make the world a better place by given some love and motherly care attending to your hair etc etc.

For me is same when my personal space bubble gets popped. Everyone becomes a creep even if it is a text message.

I am trying hard to stay koool when people display affection or attention to me. Perspective that it is me being over sensitive and troubled.

I am older than you and been called a boy and wonder if it is because the senior sees my inner child that i do not often acknowledge. After all seniors seen lots of shit and saw the world change so much that maybee some can see our inner child wants affection.

I get creeped out with anyone unwelcomed coming within bubble zone.
 
Its tiring to challenge emotions and restraint from wanting to punch invaders or grab something whack a mole style.

Even people i know who are close i try not to freak out when they get close...like aww get well lemme givva u hug.

Its true my reaction can get me into trouble that is why is always watching who is near.

The only oldlady not creepy is my mom..but when i am activated hypersensitive she becomes not my mom anymore i have freaked out horribly at her. It is so strange that in the moment she becomes the same as a stranger.
 
Thank you for posting this. This is true! Old ladies either who don't have filters and touch me or want to get really close ARE creepy. You are absolutely right that if it were a man and you were a 23 year old female it would not be socially acceptable AT ALL. To touch hair is VERY personal. Only your barber/hair stylist and your lover and children have the kind of relationship to touch your hair. Maybe a best friend who is trying to assist--but seriously, no normal best friend is going to care that your hair is under shirt or coat! There is no excuse for her or anyone. I appreciate the reminder because I was made aware that I flirt--even with people 25 years younger than me. I had no idea I was doing it. I thought I was being friendly. It was a 20 year old who took me aside and told me, "you were flirting with that guy (male 25 years younger than me) and that is gross." I was shocked to realize I was doing this. I thought I was friendly, interested in the other, and caring. I stopped the behavior and had to really analyze what I was doing. I realized I flirt with literally everyone male or female that I am not repulsed by. So I had to learn how to act interested and friendly and open-hearted, without making comments about the other's physical appearance or using suggestive body language. Having been sexually abused and exploited my first two and half decades of life, it took me YEARS to figure out how to act friendly without the sexual expression. I'm sorry I just made this post about me---I just appreciate that someone said it. Yes! Old women who touch you without permission or act like I used to are creepy.
 
The bus driver lady grabbed my arm when I got on and it freaked me out!! She didn't want me to fall when she started driving. She probably had other experiences with foreigners who fell on her bus, so that's totally understandable. But it really shook me up lol...I thought I was in trouble.

But if someone keeps touching your hair, even when you say no, that's just.....:eek::stop:
 
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