Crying

[Lucycat]

I saw a random post on Twitter yesterday about women's tears. In a nutshell, some research was done whereby they collected the tears and then let men either smell the tears or normal saline and then they monitored the effects on the men. Apparently those who smelt the tears subsequently had a lowered sex drive! (OMG What damage have I done to T!)

Additionally, and more interesting to me was that the tears of women indicated that they were being submissive. That was a bit of a light bulb moment to me as being submissive is something that I discussed with my psychiatrist. I HATE to feel or be considered submissive. So it is no wonder that I hated the fact my father could make me cry 'on demand'.

 

[crazytrain]

I cry when I watch Disney movies, yet find it difficult to even shed a tear about my own abuse history. I guess I am more in tune with other people and their plights than my own. It is, I believe, one of my many defense mechanisms that have been employed to not overload my mind. So, safety for myself, I guess. Makes me sad and angry sometimes, though!:mad:
Yeah, being not in control really has led me to the state I am in now, even. I am getting slowly better about some things, not so much about other things. Just keep lugging along, I guess!

 

[Rumors]

Does anyone know why those of us who cannot cry, don't?

I simply cannot find tears for my abuse. I don't cry in therapy and I usually don't cry at home. I wish I could! It makes me feel as if it wasn't that bad and then I try to sleep and the nightmares come.

Hope everyone is safe and doing well this evening!

 

[crazytrain]

Well, the easy answer is my stand-by: we are all different. We all handle grief/loss/sadness differently. I DO believe that your response, like a lot of ours, is a response birthed out of trauma pasts. Our bodies (brains especially) reacted in a way it saw fit in order to protect itself from the real and perceived threats around it at the time(s) of abuse. It is nature's natural protection (or God's design, which I prefer to think). Anway, that's my two cents worth!

CT