Dealing With The Past

[anni]

Odd to have read that-had the same husband first time out. Same long story so wierd. Almost same revelation except was forced into a position of HAVING to spend time with the new wife ( who he also cheated with-she stuck it out for 15 years )-thought it would be horrible and found her to be a delight. OH my, she is a wonderful, good person. I picked this awful person as a father to the boys, and accidently did NOT pick their amazingly beautiful person of a step mother! Same thing with the dread turning into an oppurtunity for grace,though, given the nerve. Yes, past can sometimes be helpful plus healing-thanks for the reminder!!

And hugs for that! :)

Anni

 

[Lionheart]

That is great news Nicolette!!! Did ya ever notice how a lie has a deadpan ring to it while the truth rings out in full force? I am thrilled that you have found a measure of peace with the past and have renewed an old friendship.

I have learned that while we can't control how others treat us, we can influence others by the way we treat ourselves (and sometimes it is the way we carry ourselves too). Now you can hold your head up high as you have risen above the lies and deceit and I am happy for you!!

 

[Nicolette]

Now you can hold your head up high as you have risen above the lies and deceit and I am happy for you!!

The funny thing Lionheart is that I thought all the lies and deceit had changed people's perceptions of me, which it had done but was no longer so, yet it was only me still thinking nothing had changed as I had removed myself from all of it. I never got to see the 'truth' be divulged and the changes which occurred so mentally I was still back 19 years ago with some things where others actually held me in admiration for doing what was important - raising my son to be a good young man.

My son's father is the one who really lost out and the good outcome is my son's step mother (who really now has no obligations) accepts my son as part of her family and treats him better than his own father. It was only my fear of going back to those people which prevented me seeing the shift a lot sooner.

The good thing is I now have peace with another issue and with that comes relief.

 

[CraftyCath]

Did ya ever notice how a lie has a deadpan ring to it while the truth rings out in full force?

Sorry to highjack your thread Nicolette, but I just wanted to let LH know that what he said above makes great sense to me.

I have learned that while we can't control how others treat us, we can influence others by the way we treat ourselves

So true, it has taken me years to realise this.

Thank you.