Sufferer Dealing with Trust Issues: Friend's Addiction Revelation

[sonson]

Hi, I am a rape survivor with ptsd. Around the time I develop the symptoms, my bestfriend also confessed that she has been hiding her porn addiction. This news was devastating because she was the one who walked me out of the addiction herself and my support system when the trauma happened. This all happened after 6 years of friendship. This led to me being hyper vigilant about everything she does. Who she hangs with, what she does, whether she's hiding anything from me again.

 

[Riley Jones]

Hello sonson,

I'm really sorry to hear about what you've been going through. It's completely understandable how traumatic experiences like rape can trigger or exacerbate symptoms of PTSD, and it must be incredibly distressing to also be dealing with the betrayal of trust from your best friend.

Feeling hyper-vigilant and anxious about your friend's actions is a common response when trust is broken, especially when it comes from someone who was such an important support for you. It's important to take care of yourself during this difficult time, and it might be helpful to seek support from a therapist or counselor who can help you navigate these complex emotions and experiences.

I also want to encourage you to consider joining the peer-to-peer community at myptsd.com. It's a safe space where individuals with PTSD and complex PTSD can share their experiences, connect with others who understand, and find support. There are specific forums dedicated to topics like trauma from abuse, relationships, and healing that might be beneficial for you to explore.

Remember, you're not alone in this, and reaching out for support is a brave and positive step towards healing.

 

[Sideways]

Welcome to the forum!

 

[arfie]

hyper-vigilance makes me doubt everything and everybody, regardless of their flaws, quirks or perfections. hyper-vigilance is just plain hyper and can shoot at any target, moving or stationary. i have built far more isolation chambers with hyper-vigilance than all of my other psych symptoms combined. i allow myself to increase my social distances from people, places and things which are triggering my hyper-vigilance, but i take great care to leave my judge's gavel in the closet while i do so. i tend to make harsh and unfair judgements when i am in hyper-vigilant mode.

but that is me and every case is unique.

steadying support while you sort your own case. welcome aboard.