Delayed Ejaculation

[mzander]

It was like an year ago when i heard this story:

A man walks into a drug store. Inside a nice lady in a white suit.

He says
- I have a permanent erection. I have it since i was child...
Please.... do you have something for me?

and the answer was:
Yes sure: - 2000$ / month in cash, a nice house and everything you want to eat.

This one was to put a smile on your face.


Please let me know "WHO have a problem with his delayed ejaculation?"

do you feel guilty and have symptoms and signs of frustration?

Is he upset about this?

it is more like your problem or his?

 

[illusionist]

Does he manage on his own?.....if so....extend that into your love making...watch..learn..copy..then go for intercourse when he is getting close to orgasm. It may break the fear?( if that's what is at the bottom of it) of coming inside you. Worked for me years ago but can take time to become comfortable, timing etc. After he had done it once, it wasn't a problem again. It totally depends on the underlying problem.

I know we both had a problem with it......It just wasn't physically or mentally possible for me to be able to go for hours on end, and he was left frustrated. Hope you find a solution.

 

[Frogs88]

I do think it is me who has the problem with it. I'm trying to be supportive and to just wait it out and to not pressurize him. I think it's just that I waited three and half years after rape for sex and I always thought it was something I would never be able to have again. I think when I found out I could have sex without being triggered I was so happy but then this sort of niggling at the back of my mind started because i couldn't bring him to orgasm and I remember my rapist telling me I was broken because I wasn't 'enjoying' myself and it just feels like however much he tells me that he's fine with it and it's not me I still feel like it is something wrong with me. So perhaps it is me with the problem.

 

[AngelKeeperJ]

Is it possible that he subconsciously is afraid of triggering you? Maybe a time of NOT even trying, and spending time holding hands, being affectionate without sex even being a topic for an agreed upon time.

Through my experiences, sex in a relationship happens WAY TOO SOON, and a good solid friendship hasn't even begun. Maybe he needs to connect more before he can advance. Who knows what experiences he has had?

Just some thoughts...

 

[itsbeentenyears]

It has been ten years since I've had successful sexual intercourse and I'm married. It's living hell and it's real. I've given up trying because I can't take the failure--again. I just have to do other things that give me some kind of feeling of accomplishment and keep my mind off sex.

It's living hell.

 

[Mit]

I've not been able to orgasm during intercourse for many years. My partner could never achieve orgasm during intercourse either, but she told me that had always been the case for her, with previous partners too.

I had years of surgery on my bits which has left me with minimal sensation, which is a lot of the problem, the rest in my case is psychological. Intercourse has always been difficult for me, physically and emotionally. Its never been the wonderful, earth shattering experience we all hope for.

So who am I to advise. But I would encourage you to talk about it. Hopefully by being very open and honest you will discover if there are any underlying issues, and what works for you both. Intercourse isn't the only way to have a fulfilling and loving sex life.