Widow_of_one
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Hi dharmagirl: about 3 years ago I started reading books written by people who where abused by their dads; and all except one said their mother knew. That was 9 out of 10 and to me: those are odds that donât exist naturally! And I suspect the 10th just didnât want to say or hasnât remembered yet.I wasn't able to find any peer reviewed studies to substantiate this. I didn't find anything to substantiate this. Where did you get the info that it's a fact? I'm really curious.
not to get off topic, but at the time I didnât know that my grandmother was apart of my abuse. I thought what I had read: a man sneaks into your room at night pretty much summed it up. It didnât explain the choking, group sex, being drugged, being threatened by killing small animals, etc.
my grandfather not only had his friends, my mother & her brothers, my grandmother plus he was apart of a sex Ring. Iâve read the âCentre for missing and exploited childrenâ report. (See attached) It explains the different types of Pedafile. My grandfather was the worst type snd is estimated to be 1-3% of all cases. Also as a note they mention âmichael Jacksonâ alleged type as well: he abuses a child between certain ages dumping them once they hit a certain age:
watch a documentary entitled âleaving Neverlandâ where the parents try to say âthey didnât knowâ. It allows you to see inside the mind of the child (ie. Two boys who are now men and what they felt at the time) and their love for him!!!
the books are:
1) âmiss America by dayâ by Marilyn van derbur! This wa shocking because she is in high school and her other 3 sisters have moved out snd go to college and she states it that her mom (an alcoholic KNeW!).
2) the next by âJane Rowanâ (âa River of forgetting: a memoir of healing from sexual abuseâ) again states that she Remebered her mom telling her she fell and thatâs why her âgirl part beteeen her legs hurtsâ. She also rmebeeed her mom telling her dad that she wonât remember the abuse not to worry. She then explains what a monster he was in terms of one day she is walking hime from school snd sees a dog doing Soemthjng cute; her dad insists it is something vulgar and wonât stop saying that the dog was in heat! His employee tries to tell him to shut up but he wonât. I mention this becaue this is what my grandfather was like always dying rude mean things that ruined my happy mood! Itâs âunnecessarily floweryâ but I thought she made some excellent points.
Also: watch dr Phil (âAmandaâs secret: forbidden love s14 e102). I mention this because I realized that both her brother snd mother KNew! They just denied it while on tv! It showed me that incest is indeed a âfamily affairâ. As a child I would tell my moms youngest brother snd her mother what was hapmeing snd both said: heâs just teasing you! It wouldnât be until I was in my 50s that I would realize that they were like Amandaâs family, benefiting from allowing him to abuse me!
3) Cyril wecht is a famous âcriminologistâ who states via FaCt that John benet ramsey was strangled accidentally by her dad during a âsex gameâ; and yes her mom was in on it!! This book made me feel grateful to be alive! If you can stomach the pictures of that beautiful little girl of her dead I would encourage you to do so since it made me realize that maybe my grandmothers insistence to be there when he Molested me wasnât such a bad idea!
lastly, I have attached a book about âSylvia likensâ a forgotten case of a sweet girl brutally abused by her caregiver. In the book the adult caregiver ENCOUraged neighborhood kids to abuse her! In the âcenter for missing snd exploited children documentâ, I have attached, it says that most abusers encourage other people to abuse the child as well. (Read: the case of the Central Park jogger) It is typical!
When I read that book about Sylvia likens I was so sure that i wasnât starved like she was; guess what? years after I read the book I rmebeeed my grandfather starved me for 3 days as a small child.
I guess what I am trying to say is that I read books about being abused and saw myself in those pages.
I started having flashbacks 35 years ago but I didnât know what it meant until I starts reading what other people went through then my mind was able to âconnect the dotsâ
read about Albert fish (serial killer and cannibal)
April tucker whcih is heartbreaking!
Grace packer
Nixmary Marie
Lisa steinberg
the list goes on and on and on and onâŚ
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