Junebug, Thank you for sharing this with me. I think we have some similar things that we are working through. (((HUGS JUNEBUG!!!)))
I have found all your tips to work so far. Last night, I had the chance to try some of them. While crying after being triggered when my H said a sarcastic remark exactly the same way my Dad always said it, I felt emotionally that he was my Dad, and I felt intense upset without being able to locate trigger at first. Therefore, I isolated myself, numbed, then thought about what was numbing me, realized it was my H's behavior, realized it triggered me, emotionally flooded, began moving as if I were three, realized why I was rocking and waving my legs about that way, "switched" into the 3-year-old right after the T. Realized I was doing it. So I got up and went back into the living room with my H and 2.5 year old. I confirmed I felt 3 based on thinking my 2.5 year old felt "my age." I forced myself to remain in the room and look around, move, get unstuck, sit, and forced myself to try to talk, which I couldn't. I looked a the TV for a while and looked around the room, and did all that you said above, except count/pinch. This usually works and takes about 2-3 minutes, each time. After that, I am "back on/in" and come back online. Then I can talk and feel calm and tell my H what happened and specifically what triggered me. I am usually using a slightly different voice and am appearing hostile and more angry than i "really feel." but it has to get out. Then I feel more calm, we talk, and it takes some time to feel normal again. Now today, I have a migraine and am really tired.
I have found all your tips to work so far. Last night, I had the chance to try some of them. While crying after being triggered when my H said a sarcastic remark exactly the same way my Dad always said it, I felt emotionally that he was my Dad, and I felt intense upset without being able to locate trigger at first. Therefore, I isolated myself, numbed, then thought about what was numbing me, realized it was my H's behavior, realized it triggered me, emotionally flooded, began moving as if I were three, realized why I was rocking and waving my legs about that way, "switched" into the 3-year-old right after the T. Realized I was doing it. So I got up and went back into the living room with my H and 2.5 year old. I confirmed I felt 3 based on thinking my 2.5 year old felt "my age." I forced myself to remain in the room and look around, move, get unstuck, sit, and forced myself to try to talk, which I couldn't. I looked a the TV for a while and looked around the room, and did all that you said above, except count/pinch. This usually works and takes about 2-3 minutes, each time. After that, I am "back on/in" and come back online. Then I can talk and feel calm and tell my H what happened and specifically what triggered me. I am usually using a slightly different voice and am appearing hostile and more angry than i "really feel." but it has to get out. Then I feel more calm, we talk, and it takes some time to feel normal again. Now today, I have a migraine and am really tired.