Relationship Divorce

[Marije]

Im I crazy or what?

As in my prevouice threads i wrote my husband want to divorce.

But now...
I asked him last week to contact me because of the divorce. We agreed HE would arrange the papers ect.
No word or answer on my message.
So I called his mother. She told me he said he called me and that he did not want her help for the divorce.
She is angry at him as he lied also to her said everything is arranged.
He will be at her place soon and she will tell him that he has to call me. But i think he wont do it. And that he has not arrange anything.

He is making me so mad. I have waited 2 months for him with no word call or seeing him. After he finally came home and said that he didnt love me sees no future and wants to divorce and HE will arrange it.

Oke then we will divorce. But WHY WHY is he not doing anything???

He cant deal with it?
Stresscup??

I need advice
Please...

 

[Snowflakes]

@Marije I didn’t want you to go the whole day thinking we are ignoring you. We are not ignoring you.
I hear the desperation in your pleas. I think you answered your own questions in your “bye bye” thread a couple weeks ago. No one here can answer your question about your husband. The only one who can answer is your husband and he isn’t talking.

I am so sorry you are hurting.

 

[Marije]

@Marije I didn’t want you to go the whole day thinking we are ignoring you. We...

Hi

He fibally called. Total numb.
To be honest all the frustration from me came out. Yes i yelled. And i told hin i cant be Friends as he hurted me to much and i cannot trust him.
It felt good to finally get that out.

I gave him 2 weeks to arrange the paperwork. If not i will arrange it.

Im so done with him

 

[Sweetpea76]

Now you can grieve, move forward and heal. Divorce is hard, but sometimes necessary.

 

[C mom]

my husband did the same thing. He had already moved out and over the course of 4 months, our conversations went from mildly hopeful with the intention of marriage counseling to him seeing no other option but divorce. He literally showed up one night and said "I'm done. It's over. I'm filing for divorce in the morning". 30 minutes later he was gone. However, almost 2 weeks passed and he never filed anything, in fact he did not even have his paperwork ready to file that next morning even if he wanted to. I ended up hiring an attorney and starting the paperwork before he had a chance to. I just couldn't take the roller coaster anymore. I was told that when he was finally served, he was finally prepared to go down to the courthouse that same afternoon and file the paperwork himself. I don't know why, but he thinks that he will be happier if he divorces me, but he has never been able to tell me what made him so unhappy to begin with. I honestly don't think he can answer that question for himself. In the meantime, I really only correspond with him over text messages and emails. At this point though, there is no more talk about saving our marriage. We only talk about the separation of assets and visitation for our son. I've lost my best friend and soulmate to this horrible illness. It just makes me so sad... 14 years of marriage ending like this, and I'm literally afraid of the person he's become.

 

[Marije]

my husband did the same thing. He had already moved out and over the course of 4 months, our conversation...

Dear C mom, I'm so sorry for you :(
But what you wrote I really recognize! Still I did not see any paperwork.....this is the last week he has too take care of it, if not I have to do it.

I believe he don't want to divorce, but as time went by, I went on with my life and now I want to divorce.
My husband also did not give me a clear reason, and I agree with you that he might don't even know it.

At this point he and I dont talk. Even though we where ''only'' together for almost 2 years he broke my heart. And I can't forgive him.
I never wanted to end it like this. But I made my decission to choice for happiness. At this moment he cant give that.

I will take care of me. And put me first now.

I wish you all the best. And please take care of yourself first. You must place yourself on number 1!

 

[C mom]

Good for you. I can totally understand why you would want the divorce. I also struggle between being hurt, angry, and compassionate . It is so important to do what is best for you though. As for me, I think I'm still praying for a miracle... I hope you find peace and happiness once your divorce is finalized and you can move on.