Do You Ever Feel That Your Whole Life Revolves Around PTSD?

[Jimmy]

I did not mean to offend anyone by my post.

Sorry.

Jimmy

 

[anni]

That really is true, Nicolette, you know, and a greattt point, I think! Yes, no offense, Jimmy, because you seem SO kind and I do just feel dreadfully when it seems people are disagreeing with perhaps some venom to someone's point, you know? Please do know that isn't the case here. :) It's just that at a certain point in the *hurt*, that's all there is for you, and you can genuinely be aware of other's misfortunes and pain, be terribly empathetic towards them, but GOD, yours is still there and awful even right up there on the shelf ( as it were ) right next to someone else's. Validation probably is the starting point for the healing, after which some clarity is possible no doubt. I just remember feeling so frustrated, then guilty because of course I was 'better off' than say, the entire impovershed nation of Ethiopia- how dare I be so unhappy in comparison?

Pain is pain is pain at a certain point, it seems to me. I could be talking a big load of dishwater again, but it's just what 'it' feels like. :)

Anni

 

[Nicolette]

I did not mean to offend anyone by my post.

I'm not offended Jimmy.....just sharing my point of view. I see your point like I said. Life sometimes just gives you a different take on things. :rolleyes:

 

[Deleted member 1860]

Nothing personal Jimmy but I hate these words above, as while there is truth in them and it is good to use them at motivation, there are many times while growing up after being told that sentence I thought to myself "that might be true but who cares about how bad I feel as my pain hurts me and not someone elses???". I just wished that someone acknowledged that I hurt too and it didn't matter that it was lesser than someone else's in the speaker's eyes (my mother).:wall:

I agree!

I am tired of therapeutic methods which encourage comparisons with others to make yourself feel better about yourself. Why such need to compare our situation to others?

 

[Tinyflame]

I think that it is possible to feel grateful for what you have and also to be experiencing terrible pain at the same time.

Expressing what you are feeling doesn't make you an ungrateful person, just one trying to understand and bear and cope with (and change) what feels unbearable and perhaps too painful/ hurtful for words to describe. You have a right to feel it and it is a healthy expectation that it should be validated.