Poll Do You Experience Separation Anxiety?

[safenow]

I don't do attachments well. The true friends I have know I don't call, write, etc. I don't expect them to either, unless there is a problem or they need me for something. i don't do the call all the time either. I don't have that much to talk about. Although, I must admit, when I was able to stand and walk again, I did let two or three people know.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

I do not do alone anymore. I used to love being alone. This is how much I have changed in the last three years. I have a hard time when my daughter takes awhile to call me back. I try to be understanding. I am very afraid of being alone. I will hate it so much when my husband dies on me. I used to love being alone by myself. I do not understand what has happened to me.

 

[safenow]

My separation anxiety is perhaps a bit different than most. I've never had anyone stick around, so I'm not sure if I could handle getting attached to someone that strong that I could take the rejection again.

 

[who am i kim]

I lose the ability to function normally for some reason if hubby is away for too long.

 

[nimkekaa]

I have panic attacks that my hubby is going to die if he has to fly or go somewhere too far away. (he doesn't go far often thank goodness) I'm fine with him going to work and things like that. I'm also fine if I go away from him, like to a friends for a night or if I go away for a weekend with a friend. I get homesick but not nearly the same.

I'm better with the children but then they are usually at school or with someone I trust.

 

[Changing4Best]

I have a PTSD Service Dog. The first time I went to see my new MD, they told me that the Dr. is affraid of dogs and that I would have to leave the dog with the office personell. I cried when they took her from me.

However, the second time I went to see the doctor, I was able to deal with it much better. I think I got a little more used to it. But then when Babygirl heard my voice and I didn't come get her right away (my dog) she cried! I guess she has a touch of it also!!!

Anyway, I do feel much better when we are together, which is 99% of the time. She sleeps on the couch nearby where I sleep in my bed on the exact other side of the wall where the couch is. So we are head to head, one on each side of the wall. We can hear eachother breathing through the open door next to our beds.

She goes everywhere with me, to church, to MacDonalds, to the grocery and other stores, to the Post Office, to the Library, to therapy and therapy group, to my psychiatrist, and on transit with me to anywhere, where I need to go. The only place that has refused her is the ambulence. So! I had them take my vitals, which were all fine, so I told them that I would rather die than be apart from my Service dog. Fortunately, they had another call about 5 minutes into our argument about this, so they had to leave. Otherwise, I am not sure what they would have done, like if they could have forced me to go by saying that I was acting crazy or something. I am glad they didn't anyway.

The next time I had chest pain, I did not call 911. It passed....

I do deal pretty well with the fact that my husband passed away though. I feel he was suffering so, that really he is much better off where he is. He had a heart attack, a stroke, and then another heart attack some 8 years later. That last one took away 90% of his heart function, so he was always cold and always in pain. That was no way to live! Then the drs. told me that he was getting ready to leave this world and they were unable to do anything about it. Furthermore, they informed me that he had a DO NOT RESUSSITATE ORDER which they could not violate. This last I did not know about, but I understood.

I do miss him, but other than some heavy tears when they first informed me, and then one tear from one eye when they informed me he was gone, I deal with it OK. I miss him, but I do understand his decision.

 

[Anna]

No. I have problems attaching to people. I feel like I wonder if I will ever love anyone like other people do. As a child I tried to go home with other peoples parents. I do not miss people, even if they die. I move on. I wonder what it must be like to be able to love someone like others do, and to miss people. Especially when you see them again. I don't even cry at funerals?!

 

[FallenAngelJJD]

I do experience seperation anxiety when I am away from loved ones. Its hard, to deal .. but I need to remind myself that I am loved also

 

[Ricanoland]

I push people away that I feel that I need around me, which creates a lot of separation anxiety even though I suppose it's half my fault. I delete a lot of numbers out of my phone and block a lot of people from my Facebook out of the blue. It's annoying not having much control over it. It may not make any sense but that it is like for me.

 

[WendyA]

Having trouble with this now! My best friend, person I am in love with and my carer (all one guy) will not be as available over the next couple weeks due to the holidays. I am not dealing well with that. What makes it worse is that this is not typical behavior for me. I normally am not and do not allow myself to be attached to people. This is all new with needing him and trusting him and following him around some days like a lost puppy dog. He doesn't seem to mind, in fact he is brilliantly loving and kind and supportive. He gives me whatever he can and when he is not with me, he makes sure I know that he is there for me. He has even recorded some videos for me to watch while we are away from each other. When I really think of what that means, it makes me feel his love. However, with PTSD I have a very selective memory and forget these things because of my vulnerability and insecurity. Its almost like this thing doesn't want me to have anything good. I find that I then look for things to pick apart and look for the negative and in some cases, OK a lot of cases, I even invent things to be wrong and take on things that have nothing to do with me. This is an old thread and not sure my response will be seen but it helps to type all this out. Thanks for letting me talk.

 

[Dee Morris]

I voted yes moderate. There was a point that it was much more severe. The first 12 years of my daughter's life, she probably spent the night away from me with a family member a total of 3 times. Never for more than one night. Sleep overs with friends were few and far between. I'd say less than a handful or two in her entire life. Part of that is because of HER anxiety about being away from me. I had a lot of anxiety about being away from her but I always would try as much as I could. I am absolutely certain that I was projecting my anxiety onto her & that's what caused her to have such severe separation anxiety. To help aleve that anxiety, I would encourage sleepovers with friends whose parents I knew well & trusted. It was hard at first but the more we tried the easier it got for both of us. Now she has a small group of friends that she will spend the night with at increasing frequency.

 

[Angelwings]

I experience this with my child and with my therapist. Both of them keep me grounded.