Poll Do You Get Angry When You Have To Speak?

[Mina]

Anyone else having fun with stt-ttt-ttt uterring or speaking of out order?

Yes, I am. So frustrating! It's almost like a verbal dyslexia. I'll say words in the wrong order, or the wrong word but something similar, like "work" instead of "word."

 

[nemofightsfire]

Mina!
Often times my sentences can start in the middle and just blurt out. Or I may repeat the same word or phrase several times. But more often I just get stuck on a word and will repeat it 4 or more times. I never had this problem! Would be able to speak in front of 100's most fluently and totally enjoy it! I still want to do public speaking, just this new habit of mine might make it more difficult.

 

[Marie E.]

When I am upset I have trouble talking and this is due to becoming mute for a whole year when I was still with my abuser.

 

[Jen93]

I get angry when I have to speak to authority figures or people I view as authority figures.

For example, for some reason I'll never understand- I was really really really dissociated, and I was shaking and loopy- and someone asked me if I'd done my homework. I managed to squeak out a "yes".

I'll also get angry if someone says something like "Do you understand?" or something of that nature in a really firm tone; or they'll tell me that I'm mean--- I don't know whether I should be saying "yes" or "no" and that's just so frustrating. Even more frustrating is the fact that silence seems like defiance to me at times... so if my mother asks me to empty the dishwasher or something, and I'm busy with homework or something, I'll just not speak, and then I'll give her the silent treatment because I'm angry at the fact that I'm worried I'll get in trouble for my reaction.

I'm fine just talking to my friends though, just hanging around and joking with them- but if someone asks me my opinion on something or tries to get my insight- I often can't speak because I don't know whether they expect a yes or a no or if I'll get into trouble for my answer later.

 

[Taven Carlsen]

Sounds familiar, although my problem is obvious - getting yelled at for year and a half will make you like that.

Atleast we know we're doing this. You do realize a lot of the "attitude problems" you deal with are this but with no self insight?

 

[Ted Moen]

Yes, especially on the phone with anyone (even loved ones) or in a meeting with any authority or would-be authority figure. It used to be a problem because I would say whatever I knew the other person didn't want to hear, even if it wasn't in my own best interest. I just wanted them to experience some of the feeling in some way no matter how minor, some of THAT feeling, some of the intense anger and frustation and whatever.

I still have that challenge. I just have learned to manage my actual responses and get my current needs met in such encounters rather than using them to vent THAT feeling.

Ted

 

[Kimpersonal]

Great poll question! Yep. I feel like it is often just useless to give my input ... verbally or otherwise. I don't want to ask questions or answer questions. People don't really care much what others have to say ... so what's with all the useless talking?

When I feel I'm not going to be heard ... why try?

 

[Violet03]

Yes, it's mostly frustrating. I never what to say. I never know how to answer questions. I would rather be in the background and be ignored. I don't want to talk to anybody. Nobody really wants to know what's inside me anyway. They couldn't handle it or couldn't accept that it is my reality.

 

[Privateer]

Hmm. I'm quite a chatty guy, once I've had a minute or two assess the people I'm with. Recently I had developed a horrendous stutter, though it seems to have cleared up as of last weekend.