Do You Hate To Get Your Hair Cut?

[CraftyCath]

I used to hat getting my hair done. My mother dragged me to the hairdressers once and she had it all cut off, short back and sides and then stuck a great big green bow on top and sent me to school! She couldn't be bothered to brush it in the morning.

I've had so many bad experiences since but now I go to a salon that I am happy with. The girl that cuts my hair went to school with my sons and grew up in the village I live in so I kind of knew her. She knows how I like it and I go when it is quiet as the constant business and noise really bothers me.

I love having my hair washed and the head massage and it is a monthly treat for me. I take a book and relax but often end up in a deep conversation with one of the stylists or another customer.

 

[Kintsugi]

This is a very interesting thread. When I was little, I hated getting my hair cut and had it down to my waist until I was twelve, which was when my therapy journey began. After that, I always wanted it short and dyed all kinds of things (I used to do a dye and cut every 3-5 months). My first year in college I grew it out, then totally flipped out and became obsessed with the idea that my hair felt like a dead animal--too far from my skull and everywhere. When my hair is too long or I haven't done any kind of body modification in a long time, I begin having nightmares where I'm looking in the mirror and my appearance is shifting in horrific ways.

Right now I'm trying to grow it out again, and I've had those dreams pretty recently. I keep thinking the solution is to dye it, but my boyfriend is vehemently unhappy with that idea. :(

I should add that there is only one salon I'll go to for anything more than a quick trim (my godmother owns it), back in my home state, so that contributed a lot to me growing it out.

Really interesting stuff here!

 

[Loloma]

Yep I went to the hairdresser because my hair got unmanageable. Guess what :mad: she cut too much off and it's half way up the back of my neck. They never bloody listen :bag: So it's a bag of my head for the next couple of months.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

I have incredibly short hair but I want to grow it out again. No more short haircuts for me anymore.

 

[CraftyCath]

I had mine cut and died at the hairdressers recently (still long though), I just wish i could make it look as nice as they do.

I always feel so good when I leave the salon.

 

[Sandstone]

I never did like having my hair cut. It's such a risk - if they do it badly you have to walk around under it for the next month. No-one will think "Bad hairdresser" but they will think "What did that woman do to her hair?"

For the last couple of years it's been out of the question. I can't be pinned in a chair while people touch me. Fortunately I have some dressmaking shears!

 

[LostWorld]

I shave my head so I hate letting it grow in, it actually makes me feel better when my head is completely bald

 

[Abstract]

Sorry that you struggle Monster (and anyone else that does).

I don't find it threatening to be touched in that environment. I don't like the experience of being in the salon with the noise and lack of privacy but not afraid of the touch.

But I absolutely hate the experience because I have had long term body dysmorphia about my hair.

Not helped by a history of it being one of the things used to torment me about at home as a small child and extending into adulthood.

I am much better at managing it now but every hair cut used to follow a pattern. Detailed planning on how to explain what I want; nervous attendance of the appointment, constant dread and panic throughout the appointment; an attempt to not look too closely after... followed by absolute despair and paranoia starting a few hours after. Feelings of being hideous and a freak. Of not being able to be in public. All kinds of distortions. I look at my face and the features appear changed and terrible. It would often take about a month for it to settle.

These days I am prepared that I am going to be in a bit of a state for a few days after. I try to block all the distortions as they come up. And I am fairly successful. It is Ok all in all but far from fun.

 

[Whitneys story]

Yes, obviously as I still have not used my gift certificate. So long now I am resorting to pulling it up with clips. The funny thing is the checker at the grocery commented "you always look so nice".

I am pretty silly, most of the people I am around are blind. So I guess it is my life long daily routine. Making the best of what I have to work with. It makes me feel good.

Going for a low maintenance style, curling irons are a drag! Soon I shall get up the nerve. :tup:

 

[Loloma]

Whitney, if people comment that you always look nice it must be so. Have you ever met a woman that likes her hair? Or the way she looks? As far as the hair goes, I haven't. We all whinge and complain. Most of the time we all look fine, we're just so critical of ourselves.

I think you do a great job, don't know how you do it. For me looking after myself is a full time job. I can be very complex at times and my own worst enemy.

 

[Changing4Best]

I finally grew it out long enough for her to cut off all that "layered look". Then I heard the place I usually go to CLOSED! So a friend of mine suggested this lady down the highway a bit. My hair was REALLY getting out of hand, even though I had dreamed of just growing it out long and straight. IT had other ideas. It was sticking out here and there. It was not doing what I told it to.

SO I got brave and went to that lady down the highway. Well! It came out half decent, I am so relieved. I found a hairstyle in one of her books that was basically what I wanted. And I told her not to layer it and she didn't. What a relief. It came out just like the photo. It looks great and I have been getting a lot of complements. I'm pleased, even though I did have to snip off a few stray longer hairs.

 

[Loloma]

Pleased it worked out for you Sheila. It's always a risk going to a new hairdresser, sometimes to the point where it can be scarey:eek:

Nice you're getting compliments, that always make you feel good. ;)