Relationship Do You Make Him Face You?

[BewitchedBewildered]

If a sufferer stops answering his phone or text messages, how long do you wait? Is it too much of an ambush to show up at his house and make him face you?

I'm talking almost 3 yrs in a relationship and 1 text in 6 weeks. If he's done with me, I need closure. But don't want to make his PTSD worse either. Advice, please?

 

[Deleted member 1860]

I don't think that showing up at his house after only 1 text in six weeks is considered an ambush. Yes, sufferers such as myself need our space, but at the same time it's not unreasonable to expect a minimum amount of communication such as "hey, I need more time" every so often. He's made the choice to shut you out, and you deserve to know what's going on. If he refuses to see you, at least you'll know where you stand.

 

[BewitchedBewildered]

Thank you.

 

[nursenurse]

Agree with SoL. Just remember your own boundaries, in case the heat of the moment draws you in, otherwise you would be in for more of the same.

 

[BewitchedBewildered]

I'm kind of done with the anger and most of the hurt, but I'm worried about him. Am I being stupid?

 

[nursenurse]

You never stop worrying about someone you care about. That takes time, weeks, months, sometimes years, to get over. Don't be too hard on yourself, but take every opportunity to do something good for yourself. Eventually the daily thoughts lessen to every other day, then maybe to once a week, once a month, that kind of thing. You are not stupid, you just care.

 

[BewitchedBewildered]

Well that turned out to be one of the biggest mistakes in my life. The stranger I saw is not someone I can be with.

 

[FaithJL]

I'm sorry to hear that BB. You must be having a tough time right now. Cry out all your tears and let go of the pain. Most of all, don't be hard on yourself. I know it's easier said than actually doing it, but hopefully in time, you will allow yourself to heal.

 

[BewitchedBewildered]

Not sure how someone can almost vibrate with anger and still come across so indifferent. Was a wake-up call, I guess.