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Does Anyone Else Have Trouble With Strangers?

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Hmmm... would it be a good idea to get a dog I wonder? Like for protection I mean. I got money for Christmas to get a pet, as where I've moved to, pets are allowed, including dogs. I had actually thought of getting something that was easier to take care of though, like a fish lol. A dog would be a lot of work, I'd have to train it and walk it, etc... but it would get me out of the house more. And I like dogs, except that they stink.
 
Dogs only stink if they have a skin issue. Normally a healthy dog doesn't stink and rarely (short hairs) need a bath (long hairs are a pain to keep clean). Having a dog has done wonders for my sense of security, non judgmental friend, and forces me out now. And black ones are scarier.

I am not little like you and bec now but I am 5 ft. I went out not up. I was 98 lbs forever (not now! Thank you zoloft for my mom's body). I swear the assholes can zoom in like no ones business! My last husband was a sadist. Not being a loose term but the real thing. He set his sights right on me and sucked me right up in his game, and being a cop he was very skilled at what he did... reading people and manipulating.

Yes, it feels like we wear a neon sign. But I like the dime idea, cracked me up but here we can have guns, tasers, and pepper spray. When I was in Houston proper I carried a gun in my truck door (legally) and had a tazer in the seat on my side as I had so many stop lights and my windows were down as I had no A/C... Nope I was not a bit on edge huh. And this was before I had full blown symptoms or diagnosed with a damn thing. I was still considered normal.

Lines bring the asshole out in me though. I have a hangup of my space. I will tell people to back the hell off, they are not going to get there any quicker being up my ass. OK I need to work on that but if people are in arms reach and I do not know you it just ain't going to happen!
 
Wow you can have guns, tasers and pepper spray where you live?? You know, it's actually kind of good all that stuff is illegal here. Considering how violent I was for a couple of years, if I was able to carry weapons like that I probably would have turned into a multiple murderer like my dad... seriously!

I know what you mean about lines. I get upset in queue at the grocers a lot, because the person behind me is standing too close. I try to move ahead of them, but then they move ahead too!! Grrr. It sucks. I hate people in my personal space.

Oh that's cool that dogs don't generally stink lol. I thought they all did. It seems everytime I've pet a dog my hand stinks afterwards, but maybe those dogs weren't being properly cared for. I talked to my aunt and uncle on the phone this morning, to wish them a Happy New Year (well and just because I miss them really badly too). Anyways they thought a dog was a good idea as well. My uncle suggested I get an alsatian, our family has had several alsatians over the years. I'd need to take it to be obedience classes... but I guess I would meet people that way... although I hate people lol. Present company not included...

What kind of dog do you have? Was it the dogs in those pictures you shared? Well I'm definitely going to think more seriously about it, and I'll let you know what happens.
 
I have cookie who is a black and tan mutt... She smells. The dog smell. But she has a hereditary form of mange. Meaning she won't pass it on to my other pets. But when she is stressed she gets scabs and the sort, it is a life long condition for her (she is like mom). The big white dogs are Great Pyrenees and are used as Livestock Guardian Dogs. Very stubborn independant thinkers! But they are bred to be. But they attach to what they are supposed to guard. And normally that is kids if lacking other animals. They are not so protective of their Alphas and you have to be to Alpha to control them. And they "blow" their coat twice a year (I mean they make it looked like it snowed and hair comes out by fist fulls). Shed the rest of the time. Give up black clothes. I still have my real old one, she is my best friend.

I lucked out on temperment and all with my mutt. I felt sorry for her covered in fleas, staph infection, and mange being given away for free in a puppy box in front of the grocer.

A good Black Lab is a great dog. They are so eager to please and so easy to train, good sized dogs... Just wonderful all the way around, you just can't go wrong. The sadist had one and he was one of the best dogs I ever knew. I won't knock the dog! Except for nose prints all over my truck window. I hear German Shepards are good too, just make sure you go to a good breeder and be ready for a long term commitment. Dogs are easy to train really.
 
Thanks veiled, that's all good advice. I don't want a dog that sheds a lot, I like my black clothes!!! You made me laugh too I'm not sure what exactly made me laugh, oh well lol. I'm suffering from sleep deprivation right now I think...
 
bat girl just give them that look,you know the one. Yeah werid people always want to chat to me because they think i care and want to listen. Like the rest of the boys im not small and dont have to listen to them...A big dog would be a good bet...lol
 
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werid people always want to chat to me because they think i care and want to listen.

LOL!!! Yeah I'll have to practice this you guys are all talking about. :)
 
Hey Batgirl, 2 suggestions. A book called "Walking the tiger from within" and a Kubotan. Both are legal just about everywhere in the world. 95% is attitude and the rest suprise. At your size you would suprize anybody. I'm not as big as the rest of the guys but I carry myself with the attitude that I'm hoping for a fight. Anybody who looks at me the wrong way will be met with a Jack Nicholson smile. You know the one from "The Shining". The book is easy to learn and gives you what you need in attitude. The Kubotan looks like an extra large pensil but when you learn to use it can be as effective as a baseball bat. Call the local PD and see if they know of any self defense classes for women in your area. There is usually a retired cop who trains. Good luck. PM me if you have Qs.
 
You know Terry, even for those of us who have been through self defense training, another round when you are feeling down is not a bad idea; may be just the thing to help pull you out of the dumps and give a little confidence back. And for any woman who has not done one I think going through a course would do a great deal for a booster to self esteem. I know it helped me on an exit from an abusive relationship. Though I neglected my emotional status at the time (wrong move).
 
Thanks Terry, I may just PM you with some questions in a few days! Going through a bunch of shit right now, but when that's over with I will...

I really would like to do some sort of self-defense or martial arts. I've always wanted to try karate. Right now though I am not physically well enough to do any of those things, I'm not even permitted to go to the gym at this point. Still recovering from surgery, although I feel pretty good. Hopefully in a weeks the doctor well let me do some serious exercise again.
 
Maybe some Tai-Chi thing batgirl? Get you mentally ready? It is relaxing and strecthing and an energy thing. I have a video somewhere, need to find it again. (yes, I have tried it all) But it may be a good step until you are fit enough to start some basics. And in basics all you really learn are stance, disipline, and mental clarity. You don't get too rough for a while. I took Tae-Kwon-Do for a while. Just doing the daily exercises were very relaxing and non impact.
 
Oh yeah veiled I didn't think of Tai Chi! I have always wanted to try that too. Even that might be a bit sketchy though, as - sounds weird - but I'm not allowed to lift my arms over my head. Something to do with straining my abdominal muscles or whatever. Anyways I'll ask the doctor when I go again. It would be nice too if there was some sort of physical rehab group I could go into.
 
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