Dog And Kids Are Scared

[InfinityBT]

At this point, I humbly ask...are you seeing a therapist? The main problem is not within him unde...

I am not seeing a therapist yet. Whole issue with transferring insurance to new county.

And my kids are here for spring break and I'm trying to keep it as peaceful as possible.

 

[InfinityBT]

So what I am reading from you , is that you are not reading us in how serious this is. You do not have tim...

Yes you are totally right. It's such a whirlwind of things going wrong when things were supposed to be great right now.

 

[Sideways]

If you want to keep it peaceful, get him out of the house. That's the only way you're going to get peaceful.

 

[Recovery4Me]

You are not in control of another adult human being...the site has a phone number...

Talk to them, please for your son's sake...just talk. Then they will help you build a saftey plan...

1-800-799-SAFE (7233)

It is good to be prepared as the cycle returns...

 

[ladee]

I truly am sorry that your dreams with this man are not turning out as you would wish them to. But in this case you almost have to remove your heart from the situation and use your head !!! This is not good and will only get worse.... It is not easy, nothing worthwhile is easy, but you are being abused... I can only hope that you can put your hurt heart somewhere and deal with that later... you have first things first to consider...You came on here because you know things are not good and not going to change..... you have permission to leave him or kick him out.... give yourself permission to do what is right for you and your kids !!!

 

[Recovery4Me]

@InfinityBT ((((hugs))))

I leave compassion at your door and trust that you will just 'talk' or dial a number to educate yourself on a back-up plan for you and your child. Peace does not come from avoidance. One little step at a time. We are listening...

I am leaving the thread for now... signing off as Codependent in recovery...:hug:

 

[Casey_03]

This is not PTSD, this is straight up abuse. Violence tends to escalate. If he is doing this now, he will do it again, and it won't be just the dog next time.

 

[Deleted member 33052]

So what I am reading from you , is that you are not reading us in how serious this is. You do not have tim...

I wish there was a *Love* button. This response deserves much more than a *Like*.

 

[Deleted member 33052]

You are not in control of another adult human being...the site has a phone number...

Talk to them,...

Another comment I wish I could *Love*

 

[Jet]

Nope...tell that dude to hit the road. He is using PTSD to excuse his behavior and that is flat out bullshit. Abuse is not acceptable under any circumstances and it his his responsibility to control his temper. And it is absolutely ridiculous that he believes you and your children should put up with this because he has PTSD.

In my opinion this is not just a case of animal abuse but also domestic violence and child abuse. And the reality is that the more slack you cut him the worse he will get. One of these days it will be you or your child that is body slammed or kicked down the stairs. There is also the very real possibility (probability?) that one or more of you will develop PTSD as a result of his behavior.

I know it is difficult to give up on a person you care about but I can promise you that no man is worth sacrificing yourself or your children and that is what he is asking you to do.

 

[EveHarrington]

I agree.

What you are supposed to do is leave him. Take your kids, your puppy and get out.

I'm sorry you lost custody of your kids in order to be with this guy. Is that perhaps why you are trying so hard to fix things?

 

[Jet]

Something else to consider is this...you said your children are visiting for spring break. When they go home and talk about what happened during the visit...do you honestly believe that they will be allowed to visit again with him in the house? No one in their right mind would go for that. Not only would they be setting the kids up for disaster but they would also be breaking the law by failing to protect the kids from the situation. That is also the charge that will be leveled at you when when things escalate and you or your children are physically harmed.

I am not trying to be harsh or unkind...but I have played this game and the end result was losing my babies. It's not worth it...I promise.